Re: Rep Retirement Lodge #111: Filling in for the night shift
It was gorgeous.

Despite the nerve-wracking feelings! (who meets their boyfriend's entire family at his sister's wedding on their ... 5th? date?!)
Thank you! I remember thinking you were going to be nervous. I was trying to find the least stressful place for you to sit, but in the end I guess it didn't matter too much. (And my aunts didn't make it, so there really wasn't that many new faces from my side). Plus I think it is a family tradition that the boys in the family have to introduce new girlfriend at my wedding. Jay introduced Jenna to the family at my first wedding. (So glad I don't have a third brother

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see, we want to keep it somewhat small, but both our parents are talking relatives this, relatives that. Apparently, we have to invite certain aunts and uncles just because. Personally, I don't care if any of my relatives show up.
We kept ours as small as we could. Robbie has five siblings, all of whom have kids, and some of his nephews are old enough to have significant others of their own. I think in the end we had a guest list of just under 100, 60 of which accepted. Due to a blizzard, we ended up with only about 40 people actually at the wedding. (yes, I'm the idiot who insists on a wedding on the first day of winter in a blizzard)
LWB's rule is a great one! I also have two real pieces of advice for you both. One, it is
YOUR wedding, not your parents' or your families'. Do what is meaningful to you both. Second, something will go wrong that day. Period. So prepare for it by being focused on what is really important that day, the two of you.
Oh, and if it does snow that day, borrow someone's four wheel drive vehicle. Don't try to drive your front wheel drive Civic with crappy 'all-weather' tires to the wedding. Really. Trust me.
My sister got married with just 2 witnesses and then had a huge reception for the family/friends by renting out a restaurant+patio for the night.
I thought that was a good way to go. Since the wedding is for the bride/groom and maybe their parents. The other people just want the booze and food!
We did something similar for our reception down here. We got married in NH and had a reception there for family and friends there. Then came back to NC and had a New Year's Eve party/wedding celebration at the restaurant here. This second party was a heck of a lot easier to plan and a LOT less expensive. We had some much fun that night that my friend who owns the restaurant decided to have a New Year's Eve party there again this year. I think we started a tradition.
