Gender Studies I

[Kepler]

"Alexa, how do I say not all men without saying not all men?"

 

[Kepler]

Paying for everything doesn't make you a nice guy

Kind of the opposite, right? Reducing a relationship to transactions isn't very "nice."

The chivalry/gentleman ideal probably had deep emotional resonance and value... in 1250. But since then it's been another incarnation of the world's oldest profession. I'm all for up front 19th century French mistresses (or 21st century suburban Karens) earning their diamond bracelets from their wealthy married providers, but let's not mistake it for high blown chivalry. It's just sweet, sweet commerce.

A lot of this is misogyny. A lot of it is the stupidity of people trying to find love who can barely tie their shoes. Did you ever watch those "catch a millionaire husband" shows? It was equally soul-destroying to watch the vapid vultures going for the gold ring and the sad, clueless rich losers fishing for love with their money. It was misery tourism.

 

[Deutsche Gopher Fan]

Kind of the opposite, right? Reducing a relationship to transactions isn't very "nice."

I learned my lesson and never dated another Harvard mba but the first one?
hedge fund guy who told me his future wife had to make over 75k but under 100k. She couldn’t sit at home but had to be doing something.
i was over his upper limit already and took myself out of his nightmare sweepstakes

 

[Kepler]

I learned my lesson and never dated another Harvard mba but the first one?
hedge fund guy who told me his future wife had to make over 75k but under 100k. She couldn’t sit at home but had to be doing something.
i was over his upper limit already and took myself out of his nightmare sweepstakes

A human being actually said that to another human being?

That's like dialog cut from a John Hughes movie for being too over the top.

Did you literally get up and leave at that point?


OH SH-T. mookie? Were you ever in Minnesota???!

 

[dxmnkd316]

I learned my lesson and never dated another Harvard mba but the first one?
hedge fund guy who told me his future wife had to make over 75k but under 100k. She couldn’t sit at home but had to be doing something.
i was over his upper limit already and took myself out of his nightmare sweepstakes

Good grief. I know the first few dates are often described as an interview, but he was essentially asking you to apply for a job not a relationship.

 

[Kepler]

Gotta admit, I've never heard anything as bad as that, and I've known Long Island prep school kids who played lacrosse and wound up at Dartmouth.

 

[Kepler]

Good grief. I know the first few dates are often described as an interview, but he was essentially asking you to apply for a job not a relationship.

"Where do you see yourself in five years?"

 

[Slap Shot]

Is he the GOAT or...

 

[Deutsche Gopher Fan]

Good grief. I know the first few dates are often described as an interview, but he was essentially asking you to apply for a job not a relationship.

We were at the Nook in St Paul and he said he knew he liked me when I picked a “cheap place” for our first date.

He also said I was perfect age at the time (29) because girls his age (35) all needed to have kids too soon.

I saw him about six years later, with a girl who appeared much younger than him. It fit.

 

[dxmnkd316]

I think I need a shower. So gross.

 

[Slap Shot]

It is gross but I half-admire the balls to make his requirements clear. :^P

 

[BassAle]

My brother (works for NVIDIA) thanks them. Last 5 years: S&P 500 +92%, NVDA +1437%

NVIDIA is like CA store owners in 1849. They're not mining the gold, they're just getting all the money.

not just mining crypto.

GPUs are heavily used in machine learning, especially deep learning neural networks (that's what we use them for), which has exploded over the last 5 years.
NVIDIA has had incredible growth in numerical computing over the last decade as well. I used to regularly attend a large supercomputing conference. When I first started going, NVIDIA had no presence. By 2015 or so, they had the largest corporate presence at the conference.

 

[Kepler]

We were at the Nook in St Paul and he said he knew he liked me when I picked a “cheap place” for our first date.

He also said I was perfect age at the time (29) because girls his age (35) all needed to have kids too soon.

I saw him about six years later, with a girl who appeared much younger than him. It fit.

Guys like that are always with a 29-year old. Even (especially) after they are married. Which... ew.

I knew a woman who had a relationship with a guy like that for a time. She had a sense of humor about it but... woof.

I was perfect age at the time (29) because girls his age (35)

Maybe the POS knew something, though. Those were our exact ages when Dr. Mrs. and I had our first date (during which I did not specify salary demands, wait, was that wrong?).

 

[FadeToBlack&Gold]

I learned my lesson and never dated another Harvard mba but the first one?
hedge fund guy who told me his future wife had to make over 75k but under 100k. She couldn’t sit at home but had to be doing something.
i was over his upper limit already and took myself out of his nightmare sweepstakes

And that was a typical, boring hedge fund guy. Imagine what the tech bros in Seattle and San Jose are telling dates now.

 

[LynahFan]

Guys like that are always with a 29-year old. Even (especially) after they are married. Which... ew.

When I lived in LA, we'd go out to eat regularly in Manhattan Beach, which is one of the ritziest beach towns in LA. It was always amusing to look around the restaurants to see how many devoted fathers were taking their "daughters" to dinner.

 

[Kepler]

When I lived in LA, we'd go out to eat regularly in Manhattan Beach, which is one of the ritziest beach towns in LA. It was always amusing to look around the restaurants to see how many devoted fathers were taking their "daughters" to dinner.

"Nieces" is the by-word in Europe.

A fair number of "nephews" as well.

You get that in any fancy restaurant in NYC, too. The rich sure are family-oriented.

 

[Kepler]

And that was a typical, boring hedge fund guy. Imagine what the tech bros in Seattle and San Jose are telling dates now.

This alludes to it. Reading through the Comments is also an incredible indictment of how tech went from a refuge for lonely, interesting, rebellious people to being as much a salary magnet for boring, entitled as-sholes as law or finance.

The Social Network also showed this, although I don't think it meant to. There is a reason tech billionaire as-swipes like Bezos, Zuckerberg, Moskovitz, Spiegel are the way they are.

 

[FadeToBlack&Gold]

This alludes to it.

The jokes about INC tickets remind me of a joke among the nerds at my Catholic HS (early 2000s):

"Have you acquired a girlfriend yet?"

"No, I've been looking at eBay listings...still no luck, I keep getting sniped by the varsity letter guys!"

 

[Jimjamesak]

This alludes to it. Reading through the Comments is also an incredible indictment of how tech went from a refuge for lonely, interesting, rebellious people to being as much a salary magnet for boring, entitled as-sholes as law or finance.

The Social Network also showed this, although I don't think it meant to. There is a reason tech billionaire as-swipes like Bezos, Zuckerberg, Moskovitz, Spiegel are the way they are.

I blame Mark Cuban. He was really the first high profile tech dudebro billionaire, “he’s a nerd but he’s got a yacht and owns an NBA team!” That and the 2008 crash, probably made it a lot less socially acceptable to be in finance.

 

[Kepler]

I blame Mark Cuban. He was really the first high profile tech dudebro billionaire, “he’s a nerd but he’s got a yacht and owns an NBA team!” That and the 2008 crash, probably made it a lot less socially acceptable to be in finance.

I blame War Games. The CS majors I knew in college said the year before it came out the frosh were still all indistinguishable from the guys at the TMRC in 1959, but four years after they looked like business majors.

I knew law faculty who said exactly the same thing happened because of LA Law. One year Jews and that homely girl from Fritz the Cat, the next year quarterbacks and cheerleaders.