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Rep Retirement Lodge #171: On Turkeys.

Rep Retirement Lodge #171: On Turkeys.


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Re: Rep Retirement Lodge #171: On Turkeys.

Morning, Loj.

Concussions, high blood pressure, kidney stones, seizures, all night flu sessions -- be careful out there, Lodgers! Take care of yourselves, all right?
 
Morning Lodge. Someone brought in baked goods to our office (which I certainly need none of). The new guy - CAD/BIM jockey, bought in mint-chocolate brownies and ginger snap cookies. Probably more sugar in those two batches than our family uses in a couple of months.:eek:

Jr had asked the high school coach about being a student manager (sent an e-mail) got one back saying "let's talk Monday." Then got a follow up one, which Jr didn't read until Monday, asking if Jr wanted to go with the team to the scrimmages in Duluth. Nobody better bad-mouth Ken Pauly around me. He has been so nice to my kid, even while cutting him in tryouts. So different from what I see from other high school coaches.

This is a cool experience for jr! One of the kids we cut we kept on as a manager as well; it's fun to have kids who want to be involved stay involved.

Pauly is a great coach and he's a heck of a recruiter, too.;)

Long next 24 hours. Then a much needed break. Heading to my coffee pot...
 
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My son has his first JV game today. Skated on the first line at practice yesterday, so hopefully he gets a shot there today. A high school career begins...


I'm pumped!


Oh yeah and they had a scrimmage up in Wausau last Friday and rode up in a decked out coach bus with video screens in each seat back and tables. Played euchre with the seniors coz they needed a 4th and said he won 2 outta 3. Said it was an awesome trip.

Lucky little ****.


We never rode in coach buses. Remember school vans?
 
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Sorry for the rant, but I just need to get this off my chest.

How do people get notice of these things? I just had a women I've not seen in roughly 16 years - my sophomore year at SCSU - send me condolences on my mom's passing. I grew up with the woman who sent her condolences, as in she lived in my neighborhood but we were never really friends, and I'm receiving condolences from her now. It's just weird. Add to that, aside from some close friends who I know knew my mom, I've not really been out telling people about her passing yet a few different people from my past have contacted me about it. It's just so weird. And these people keep telling me how hard it is, but they never ask first how it's going. Perhaps I see her passing as a complete relief, that it gives her some peace after all her suffering and the fading of her identity from Alzheimer's for the last nine years turning her into a shell of a person, did you ever think of that? The last nine years were hard. I'm going to miss her terribly - I've been missing her terribly, but her passing has turned out to be mostly easy, as callow as that may make me sound to most people. Send condolences, that's all well and good, but to try to offer some words on how terrible things are now when you don't know the circumstances just ring hollow. And I know I would have a completely different perspective if it was a sudden event, appreciating their words instead.

Another weird thing, and about 85% unrelated and much lighter, on Saturday I heard Metallica's Unforgiven on KQ92, the classic rock station in these parts, and today I heard Patience by GnR. The related part is that I wouldn't have heard the songs if not for my mom's passing as I've had the radio going in my car on Sunday and I'm not at work today.
 
Re: Rep Retirement Lodge #171: On Turkeys.

My son has his first JV game today. Skated on the first line at practice yesterday, so hopefully he gets a shot there today. A high school career begins...


I'm pumped!


Oh yeah and they had a scrimmage up in Wausau last Friday and rode up in a decked out coach bus with video screens in each seat back and tables. Played euchre with the seniors coz they needed a 4th and said he won 2 outta 3. Said it was an awesome trip.

Lucky little ****.


We never rode in coach buses. Remember school vans?
Yellow school bus. The gear was loaded into back of the bus, or into another small bus that followed if it was a long trip.
 
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How do people get notice of these things?

Probably the obits. My wife always looks at them and has learned about the passing of people we had significant contact with in past years and no contact with recently. I'm sorry that not all of their messages have been put the right way and have caused you more angst, rather than less. I hope you are doing OK, whatever your feelings about her passing have been.
 
Re: Rep Retirement Lodge #171: On Turkeys.

Having some experience in a sorta related way, I've found that many people just have no idea what to say and often blurt out the wrong thing. Many others just never say anything at all.

I've had to get good at realizing these things and letting it go as humans being human and not meaning to be numbskulls.


As far as people not asking how one is doing - many times, people are afraid to hear the answer for a multitude of reasons.
 
Sorry for the rant, but I just need to get this off my chest.

How do people get notice of these things? I just had a women I've not seen in roughly 16 years - my sophomore year at SCSU - send me condolences on my mom's passing. I grew up with the woman who sent her condolences, as in she lived in my neighborhood but we were never really friends, and I'm receiving condolences from her now. It's just weird. Add to that, aside from some close friends who I know knew my mom, I've not really been out telling people about her passing yet a few different people from my past have contacted me about it. It's just so weird. And these people keep telling me how hard it is, but they never ask first how it's going. Perhaps I see her passing as a complete relief, that it gives her some peace after all her suffering and the fading of her identity from Alzheimer's for the last nine years turning her into a shell of a person, did you ever think of that? The last nine years were hard. I'm going to miss her terribly - I've been missing her terribly, but her passing has turned out to be mostly easy, as callow as that may make me sound to most people. Send condolences, that's all well and good, but to try to offer some words on how terrible things are now when you don't know the circumstances just ring hollow. And I know I would have a completely different perspective if it was a sudden event, appreciating their words instead.

Another weird thing, and about 85% unrelated and much lighter, on Saturday I heard Metallica's Unforgiven on KQ92, the classic rock station in these parts, and today I heard Patience by GnR. The related part is that I wouldn't have heard the songs if not for my mom's passing as I've had the radio going in my car on Sunday and I'm not at work today.

Not an opinion about your post but cripes I missed the post about your moms passing altogether. Sorry man!
 
Having some experience in a sorta related way, I've found that many people just have no idea what to say and often blurt out the wrong thing. Many others just never say anything at all.

I've had to get good at realizing these things and letting it go as humans being human and not meaning to be numbskulls.


As far as people not asking how one is doing - many times, people are afraid to hear the answer for a multitude of reasons.

Ditto. When my father passed last February I encountered numerous people from my past that mentioned they would like to stay in contact. Haven't seen or heard from them since. I knew they didn't mean it or wouldn't follow up when they brought it up. Why the hell even bring it up?
 
Re: Rep Retirement Lodge #171: On Turkeys.

Not an opinion about your post but cripes I missed the post about your moms passing altogether. Sorry man!

I didn't post anything about her passing. The last time I said anything was Saturday night, and it wasn't anything specific that would have told anybody what was happening, posting it after I'd come home from visiting with her for a few hours when the nursing home said she was likely to pass away soon. She ended up gaining her freedom about an hour after I'd left, shortly before 1:00AM on Sunday morning.
 
Re: Rep Retirement Lodge #171: On Turkeys.

I didn't post anything about her passing. The last time I said anything was Saturday night, and it wasn't anything specific that would have told anybody what was happening, posting it after I'd come home from visiting with her for a few hours when the nursing home said she was likely to pass away soon. She ended up gaining her freedom about an hour after I'd left, shortly before 1:00AM on Sunday morning.
Condolences.

I, too, thought I had missed a post.
 
Re: Rep Retirement Lodge #171: On Turkeys.

I have now been at my job long enough that when my suppliers call me, they want to talk about college hockey. Just got off the phone with a supplier in Tyngsboro, MA and he was telling me how Lowell was doing. Yesterday I was talking to a supplier that used to ref Atlantic Hockey but now he works in Kansas City, so we were talking about college hockey.
:D

Condolences.

I, too, thought I had missed a post.
Me 3.

I know a lot of people who have told me they are sick of people asking how they are doing. Kind of strange no one has asked you. Glad your Mum is at peace finally. I know you have posted for some time about how tough things were.

Our culture is very weird about grieving. When we were kids it was 2 days of wake, then it was 2 sessions now one 4 hr block of time. There is less and less tradition around death (at least around here) and I think a lot of people have no idea what to do or say. I had a patient who was in rabbi school and she told me the Jewish tradition she grew up with was so sit Shiva for a week and then go to the Synagogue every AM for a whole yr in remembrance. She said that way you met people every day in all stages of grief. THat is a lot of synagogue but I bet people are more well versed in what to say or not.
 
Re: Rep Retirement Lodge #171: On Turkeys.

:D

Me 3.

I know a lot of people who have told me they are sick of people asking how they are doing. Kind of strange no one has asked you. Glad your Mum is at peace finally. I know you have posted for some time about how tough things were.

Our culture is very weird about grieving. When we were kids it was 2 days of wake, then it was 2 sessions now one 4 hr block of time. There is less and less tradition around death (at least around here) and I think a lot of people have no idea what to do or say. I had a patient who was in rabbi school and she told me the Jewish tradition she grew up with was so sit Shiva for a week and then go to the Synagogue every AM for a whole yr in remembrance. She said that way you met people every day in all stages of grief. THat is a lot of synagogue but I bet people are more well versed in what to say or not.

I think a big part of it is being able to read the person with whom you're speaking. I have four older brothers, of them the two oldest are holding up just fine, one almost seems cold and uncaring. I know that's not who he is, but I'm pretty sure that since he was sitting with her when she passed away, had two hours with her while all the officials were doing what they needed to do. My second brother is doing fine, dealing with all the issues over the year like I have been. My next two brothers are wrecks. The one couldn't even show up to the mortuary while the other showed up baked like a cake. The three of us had some fun with him a few times, asking some questions he just couldn't answer too easily. I think they've both been delving into their stashes pretty much 24/7 in order to medicate themselves into coping. Regardless, I wouldn't approach them the same way as my two older brothers.
 
Re: Rep Retirement Lodge #171: On Turkeys.

How do people get notice of these things? I just had a women I've not seen in roughly 16 years - my sophomore year at SCSU - send me condolences on my mom's passing. I grew up with the woman who sent her condolences, as in she lived in my neighborhood but we were never really friends, and I'm receiving condolences from her now. It's just weird. Add to that, aside from some close friends who I know knew my mom, I've not really been out telling people about her passing yet a few different people from my past have contacted me about it. It's just so weird. And these people keep telling me how hard it is, but they never ask first how it's going. Perhaps I see her passing as a complete relief, that it gives her some peace after all her suffering and the fading of her identity from Alzheimer's for the last nine years turning her into a shell of a person, did you ever think of that? The last nine years were hard. I'm going to miss her terribly - I've been missing her terribly, but her passing has turned out to be mostly easy, as callow as that may make me sound to most people. Send condolences, that's all well and good, but to try to offer some words on how terrible things are now when you don't know the circumstances just ring hollow. And I know I would have a completely different perspective if it was a sudden event, appreciating their words instead.

My condolences too, St. C.

When my brother died from cancer at 32, one tricky part was the relief that his suffering was over. And could I risk telling people that? I'm sure more people understand than not, but it does make you nervous about admitting it out loud.

I def agree with this:

. . . I've found that many people just have no idea what to say and often blurt out the wrong thing. Many others just never say anything at all . . . I've had to get good at realizing these things and letting it go as humans being human and not meaning to be numbskulls.

The heavily sincere / offering perspective / almost sentimental comments also happen at celebrations. When our daughter was born, I'd get the occasional, "You fell deeply in love the second you saw those wonderful eyes seeing you for the first time, didn't you!" It took a while to get the hang of that, because the honest answer was, "Uh, I dunno. --squirm-- Can you really fall in love with a newborn? She felt *heavy*, that's what I remember. And they cleaned her up so fast!" I learned to just say, "Thanks, we're really happy." They really just wanted to acknowledge the situation. I still thought they were a little weird, but like Gurt said so well, they were humans being human.
 
Re: Rep Retirement Lodge #171: On Turkeys.

Good evening Lodge.

For those of you keeping score from home..........little g had his conference today. In math and reading he is performing exceptionally well. At the beginning of the year he tested at a level him and his peers should be performing by at the end of the year. His issues all revolve around the physical stuff like writing and using a scissors and such. His writing though has improved greatly the past couple months. Socially he does just fine. He has many friends and is quite popular with the kids at school.

Little gII is similar. The big difference is he spends a little bit more time in sit and watch. :) Funny story. Little gII has a keen grasp of the abstract. He looks and analyzes things in a very unique way. It's impressive at times and it will be interesting to see how that carries as he gets older. He is a whiz with jig saw puzzles. He is completing puzzles way above his age level. Anyways.......his teacher had one one on ones with all the students at the beginning of the school year. She was testing them on the basics. Colors, shapes numbers and such. One item was a simple horizontal line. She asked each kid what it was. Most kids respond with "a line" or something similar. Little g? "A really skinny rectangle".
 
Re: Rep Retirement Lodge #171: On Turkeys.

I have now been at my job long enough that when my suppliers call me, they want to talk about college hockey. Just got off the phone with a supplier in Tyngsboro, MA and he was telling me how Lowell was doing. Yesterday I was talking to a supplier that used to ref Atlantic Hockey but now he works in Kansas City, so we were talking about college hockey.

I'm pretty well known for being the college hockey guy around work as well. Lots of Air Force, UAA and UA_ fans who are very familiar with Tech. I actually just ran into my boss at last Saturday's game - while wearing stripes :D

One of my higher-ups had two daughters who played women's D1 for Wisconsin until they graduated recently. IIRC they won a championship or two.
 
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Question for you Lodgers.

Little g is requesting board games for Xmas. I'm thinking stuff like Sorry and Yahtzee. It has been a while but is Life a game young kids could get into? I would liken to get him Battleship but I'm not sure he can maneuver all the small pieces. Other suggestions would be appreciated.
 
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Re: Rep Retirement Lodge #171: On Turkeys.

Question for you Lodgers.

Little g is requesting board games for Xmas. I'm thinking stuff like Sorry and Yahtzee. It has been a while but is Life a game young kids could get into? I would liken to get him Battleship but I'm not sure he could maneuver all the small pieces. Other suggestions would be appreciated.
How old/what grade is he in now? Would Connect Four be something he'd like? It's using checker pieces to place into slots, an expanded tic-tac-toe game, essentially. I was going to mention Monopoly, but I'm not sure they make an edition using large pieces. Would Sorry! work for him? A lot of the board games I liked either had small pieces or were for what I expect to be an older age than what little g is. (Risk or Stratego, for instance). Is teaching him chess an option? I don't know his limitations, if the board would be too much or if it's grasping the pieces or just a simple lack of interest in it. I grew up with a huge chess board with commensurately large chess pieces. I always liked it, but I think my youngest brother ended up with it when my dad died.
 
Re: Rep Retirement Lodge #171: On Turkeys.

Good evening Lodge.

For those of you keeping score from home..........little g had his conference today. In math and reading he is performing exceptionally well. At the beginning of the year he tested at a level him and his peers should be performing by at the end of the year. His issues all revolve around the physical stuff like writing and using a scissors and such. His writing though has improved greatly the past couple months. Socially he does just fine. He has many friends and is quite popular with the kids at school.

Little gII is similar. The big difference is he spends a little bit more time in sit and watch. :) Funny story. Little gII has a keen grasp of the abstract. He looks and analyzes things in a very unique way. It's impressive at times and it will be interesting to see how that carries as he gets older. He is a whiz with jig saw puzzles. He is completing puzzles way above his age level. Anyways.......his teacher had one one on ones with all the students at the beginning of the school year. She was testing them on the basics. Colors, shapes numbers and such. One item was a simple horizontal line. She asked each kid what it was. Most kids respond with "a line" or something similar. Little g? "A really skinny rectangle".
THis is a hoot
Question for you Lodgers.

Little g is requesting board games for Xmas. I'm thinking stuff like Sorry and Yahtzee. It has been a while but is Life a game young kids could get into? I would liken to get him Battleship but I'm not sure he could maneuver all the small pieces. Other suggestions would be appreciated.
Hungry Hippos was a hit all the way through the teen yrs until it broke. You just repetitively whack the thing. We like Blokus- this is a strategy game a number of people can play. Can be more or less complicated depending on the age. Dominos, Candyland, Chutes and Ladders, Trouble, Clue. Careers is great if you like math.
 
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