Sorry for the rant, but I just need to get this off my chest.
How do people get notice of these things? I just had a women I've not seen in roughly 16 years - my sophomore year at SCSU - send me condolences on my mom's passing. I grew up with the woman who sent her condolences, as in she lived in my neighborhood but we were never really friends, and I'm receiving condolences from her now. It's just weird. Add to that, aside from some close friends who I know knew my mom, I've not really been out telling people about her passing yet a few different people from my past have contacted me about it. It's just so weird. And these people keep telling me how hard it is, but they never ask first how it's going. Perhaps I see her passing as a complete relief, that it gives her some peace after all her suffering and the fading of her identity from Alzheimer's for the last nine years turning her into a shell of a person, did you ever think of that? The last nine years were hard. I'm going to miss her terribly - I've been missing her terribly, but her passing has turned out to be mostly easy, as callow as that may make me sound to most people. Send condolences, that's all well and good, but to try to offer some words on how terrible things are now when you don't know the circumstances just ring hollow. And I know I would have a completely different perspective if it was a sudden event, appreciating their words instead.
Another weird thing, and about 85% unrelated and much lighter, on Saturday I heard Metallica's Unforgiven on KQ92, the classic rock station in these parts, and today I heard Patience by GnR. The related part is that I wouldn't have heard the songs if not for my mom's passing as I've had the radio going in my car on Sunday and I'm not at work today.