On VT, there seems to be some of that in most of the high-profile fan bases, the Gopher fans definitely included. You're right that there was a loud camp who wanted M.S. to be dumped, even though the roster didn't have another viable option for a starting setter. Some of that is familiarity breeding contempt, so that the most popular quarterback on the roster is the one holding the clipboard on the sidelines. Can't throw costly interceptions or make trap sets if you never get off the bench. VT Gopher fans are always harping on their African American players, at least after Taylor Morgan graduated, for not showing enough emotion. Samedy, Rollins, Landfair -- none of them go all Kendall White, so that becomes a cause for complaint. I'm sure the flip side to that coin would be that, "She be acting all crazy out there; girl, keep your head in the game!"
But it's not Minnesota, or Texas, or Stanford. It seems to be all of them. Grace Loberg got more than her share of heat on VT; she's not on the court to set a new standard for receiving serve, but every shank is taken as a personal insult. And when Nebraska makes a run, they aren't sure what to say about Nicklin Hames; she's been the reason that they couldn't succeed all year, so how are they now finding a way to win and she's still out there?
I'm in a glass house, so I better not throw too many stones. I think VolleyTalk tends to get nastier than we do here, but that is setting a low bar for ourselves. People who have coached females in sports or manage them in the office soon find that it is not exactly the same as coaching or managing males. And yes, I'm generalizing, but I think there is some truth to this. Males are more likely to start out very aware of their strengths and blind to their faults, assuming that they're the solution and others are the problem. Females want to do well, and they are willing to listen to what you tell them. They are painfully aware of their shortcomings, so a coach or boss needs to offer solutions, not just point out flaws. It stands to reason that female athletes will also be more easily hurt by criticism from fans, the people who are supposed to have their backs and support them on their journey.
Personally, I will try to be better moving forward. Feel free to remind me that I said this.