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Rep Retirement Lodge #167: Weather

Rep Retirement Lodge #167: Weather

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MavHockey14 said:
Thoughts and prayers with you, Brent.

Stuff like that makes the struggles my lady and I have had seem so small.. We've been talking more lately.. Seen each other a bit, I'm heading to Iowa tomorrow with her for her sister's graduation from college..

Anyways, tonight we talked and she said that "spark" is sometimes there, but it's not ALWAYS there. Holding back tears she told me she hates how much it hurts me and she wants nothing more than for it to come back.

I told her I'm not going to "wait" forever. She also said she feels like she needs "the chase" back.. Like she wants me to talk with other girls and be a little jealous, etc.. That she thinks it might reignite that spark..

Convenient timing, eh?

Not sure what to think about this.. Sounds like I'm gonna have to play hard to get or move on.
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Drama queen. Run. Run fast. Never look back.
 
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Brenthoven said:
Ditch her. F the games. F. The. Games. It's called adulthood. Although I'm a bachelor, so take it as you will.

But thanks for the T and P.
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state of hockey said:
Drama queen. Run. Run fast. Never look back.
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What these guys said. If you have to work that hard and do contrived things then this isn't the relationship you thought you were having. SOunds like you are in love with what you thought you had not with who she is.
 
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MavHockey14 said:
Thoughts and prayers with you, Brent.

Stuff like that makes the struggles my lady and I have had seem so small.. We've been talking more lately.. Seen each other a bit, I'm heading to Iowa tomorrow with her for her sister's graduation from college..

Anyways, tonight we talked and she said that "spark" is sometimes there, but it's not ALWAYS there. Holding back tears she told me she hates how much it hurts me and she wants nothing more than for it to come back.

I told her I'm not going to "wait" forever. She also said she feels like she needs "the chase" back.. Like she wants me to talk with other girls and be a little jealous, etc.. That she thinks it might reignite that spark..

Convenient timing, eh?

Not sure what to think about this.. Sounds like I'm gonna have to play hard to get or move on.
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That's precursor to her saying that she just wants to be single. That's a girl who's looking forward to hitting the clubs so she be chased and revel in how she's wanted by strange guys. Sowing her wild oats, or something. Good luck, Mav.



Brent, sorry for your situation.
 
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Good Morning Lodge.

Sorry to hear Brent. Best to your family.

Not gonna comment on Mavsy's issues as you all seem to have it covered.

Jr gets to sail in his first regatta this afternoon, unfortunately it'll be light wind. He got to practice yesterday in high winds with a little maniac of a skipper and they won every race. Jr had to work his butt off and got scared at times, but had a blast. The skipper is an 8th grader from Wayzata who will go to BSM next year but is sailing for Wayzata this year.
 
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MavHockey14 said:
Thoughts and prayers with you, Brent.
Stuff like that makes the struggles my lady and I have had seem so small.. We've been talking more lately.. Seen each other a bit, I'm heading to Iowa tomorrow with her for her sister's graduation from college..
Anyways, tonight we talked and she said that "spark" is sometimes there, but it's not ALWAYS there. Holding back tears she told me she hates how much it hurts me and she wants nothing more than for it to come back.
I told her I'm not going to "wait" forever. She also said she feels like she needs "the chase" back.. Like she wants me to talk with other girls and be a little jealous, etc.. That she thinks it might reignite that spark..
Convenient timing, eh?
Not sure what to think about this.. Sounds like I'm gonna have to play hard to get or move on.
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I'm going with the rest of the jury on this one. My Mom (an uncredentialled expert in psychology) always said: 'If you want to make your life a living hell, marry a girl who plays jealousy games.' I actually consider you lucky that this occurred before the relationship got more serious. It's sad moments like this that teach us the value of finding the one we should truly love.
 
leswp1 said:
What these guys said. If you have to work that hard and do contrived things then this isn't the relationship you thought you were having. SOunds like you are in love with what you thought you had not with who she is.
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Isn't Mav and gf a combined 32 yo?? (Slight hyperbole there, but still...)
 
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If she wants to be jealous, suggest she invite a friend of hers to join you guys ;)

Or her sister this weekend :)

Lets see if she is just talking the talk, or she walks it too.

(Y'all know Mookie is a big G&S fan... Listen to the mikado where the group shares there's a lot of good fish in the sea :D [and try a couple at the same time!] )
 
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So we just had 4-time Olympic women's water polo player here in the office. She is here for the NCAA women's water polo championship over at Harvard this weekend. She went to Stanford and won a national title there in addition to her medals. Cool person and if you looked at her you probably wouldn't have thought she was a water polo player. I always assume they're tall.

I'm off to Ann Arbor for the weekend.
 
West Texas Wolverine said:
I'm going with the rest of the jury on this one. My Mom (an uncredentialled expert in psychology) always said: 'If you want to make your life a living hell, marry a girl who plays jealousy games.' I actually consider you lucky that this occurred before the relationship got more serious. It's sad moments like this that teach us the value of finding the one we should truly love.
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Wish someone had given me this advice when I was Mav's age. Would have saved me from so much stress and pain.
 
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Thanks all for the advice.

I guess it confuses me more than anything because we've had plenty of nights that "the spark" is not only back, but better than it was before. I guess things have even unstable like this or a month or so now.

I'm not quite ready to move on for the simple fact that virtually all of her friends are moving back home and she is staying here to work, work out, and take six credits. Finals are done today, and next week none of her friends will be here. She's virtually going to have nothing but time on her hands to think about things, if she misses me, etc.
 
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MavHockey14 said:
Thanks all for the advice.

I guess it confuses me more than anything because we've had plenty of nights that "the spark" is not only back, but better than it was before. I guess things have even unstable like this or a month or so now.

I'm not quite ready to move on for the simple fact that virtually all of her friends are moving back home and she is staying here to work, work out, and take six credits. Finals are done today, and next week none of her friends will be here. She's virtually going to have nothing but time on her hands to think about things, if she misses me, etc.
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Maybe you should share the comments from this thread with her and see what she thinks of it.
 
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Brenthoven said:
Welp. Came home to bad news. Grandpa is in the hospital. He's my last remaining grandparent (had 2 maternal great-grandmas, 1 maternal great-grandpa, and both sets of grandparents growing up, the first, a maternal great-grandma passed away at 103 when I was about 12-13 years old). I am not thinking this will end well, as he's been struggling for about a year now with some dementia and such. :(
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Sorry to hear, Brent. :(

mookie1995 said:
If she wants to be jealous, suggest she invite a friend of hers to join you guys ;)
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I'm with mookie...no sense in wasting this potential opportunity. :D

So to recap: Suggest friend first, run later (Seriously though, don't play any girl's games...you will not win. Ever.).
Almington said:
Wish someone had given me this advice when I was Mav's age. Would have saved me from so much stress and pain.
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But would one of the "let you" go to the Final Five? :p
 
MavHockey14 said:
Thanks all for the advice.

I guess it confuses me more than anything because we've had plenty of nights that "the spark" is not only back, but better than it was before. I guess things have even unstable like this or a month or so now.

I'm not quite ready to move on for the simple fact that virtually all of her friends are moving back home and she is staying here to work, work out, and take six credits. Finals are done today, and next week none of her friends will be here. She's virtually going to have nothing but time on her hands to think about things, if she misses me, etc.
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You do realize that what you want and how positive you feel about her and the relationship doesn't matter if she doesn't feel the same way?
 
MinnesotaNorthStar said:
So to recap: Suggest friend first, run later (Seriously though, don't play any girl's games...you will not win. Ever.).
But would one of them "let you" go to the Final Five? :p
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If I've done nothing else in my life, I've dated the pinnacle of the crazy pyramid, twice. Clearly not the sharpest knife when it comes to women and dating.
 
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