I think I know what you mean, duper, but I disagree. Standing for the Pledge is merely showing respect for the country and those people around you. Placing your hand over your heart makes you a participant in it - tacitly agreeing with the Pledge. I'm not asking her to take the Pledge, just stand and show respect for those that are and the country it represents. It is similar to proper etiquette when a national anthem is played: stand and remove your hat. I assume you do that when Oh, Canada is played (assuming you are American). It doesn't make you a Canadian or even a Canadian sympathizer, it just means you are showing respect to Canada and Canadians.