Can I drag you into this pit? What are your thoughts? You are, as Kepler had said in the past, one of the (maybe) four or five voices of reason on this board. I know you’ve said in the past that you aren’t completely on board with using ‘they’ as singular. I assume that’s your law background coming out? Similarly, strict adherence to rules and norms was beaten into me by my professors so I’m not terribly woke on this issue.
As always, curious about your thoughts.
I personally hate womyn, womxn, and the like. Partly because I simply think those terms are stupid, partly because the use of such terms is a complete unforced error politically made by otherwise intelligent people (pretty much all of whom are liberal academics from New England or the Pacific Northwest). You're simply opening yourself up to having a significant portion of the population roll their eyes at you and dismiss everything you say after that, and it's completely unnecessary. It's not like 'woman/women' is gender's version of the N-word, for Christ's sake.
Kepler is right that language evolves and words can change their meaning over time. But what he forgets is that many words don't change over time, and history is littered with fads that disappeared a generation or two later. Certain feminists have been trying to normalize womyn since the 60s, and it still hasn't caught on 60 years later. I'm not holding my breath that it will in the next 60, either.
'They' as a singular simply grinds my gears as grammar Nazi. It's a third person plural pronoun. I realize people use it as a singular all the time, especially in speech when referring to collective singulars (How'd State do today? They won), but in formal written prose, it's not a singular pronoun. Sorry.
I realize that in 40 years when I'm in the retirement home, this may make me the same as my southern grandmother who referred to black people as 'colored' till the day she died. It's almost inevitable that we'll all have at least one or two such things (if not many, many more).
Which is why intent matters. A ****** referring to Amber as a man repeatedly is a ****** because he is being intentionally disrespectful. And that's regardless of the words actually used (or not used). My grandmother referring to people as colored, while groan inducing, was a lesser offense because there wasn't harmful intent in it.
If society really wants to go down a route of having an infinite number of terms for every individual characteristic out there, it'll happen whether I like it or not. But people better grow some really thick skin, then, because it will lead to more and more instances where the wrong term is used, often for innocent reasons.