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TRP: Free of political butthurt since 1999.

DX talks about the way I survive. This is one of my coping mechanisms. I've been writing letters to myself. This one was written in late October last year.

(If you can take anything from this, by all means).
Hey Amber Marie,

I'm asking for a different courage for you today.

I know you have the courage to strip down to lingerie and pose seductively for a boudoir shoot.

I know you have the courage to run marathons and take on wild endurance challenges.

I know you have the courage to sit for 7.5 hours while your rights are added to Holland's NDO.

I know you have the courage to pursue a Masters' degree at 40.

I know you have the courage to punch a fire breathing dragon in the mouth, should one appear in front of you. Knowing you, you'd yawn, hand someone your coffee, punch the dragon, and get brunch afterward.

But what I want for you today is not the courage to do the wild and the impossible.

I'm asking for the courage for you to rest.

I'm asking for the courage for you to heal from all the trauma you never quite healed from.

I'm asking for the courage for you to make the necessary phone calls for you to get the help you need.

I'm asking for the courage for you to receive constructive criticism, even if you don't like the way it's delivered.

I'm asking for the courage for you to sit with your thoughts and process them.

I'm asking for the courage for you to advocate for yourself and be Mama Bear to yourself.

I'm asking for the courage for you to move beyond the willing chaos you create and move towards the unknown of stability and safety.

I'm asking for the courage for you to stop chasing neon lights and honor the light inside of you.

And yes, doing all those things takes unique bravery. But if anyone is brave, it's you.

I love you,

Amber Marie.
 
Should I be concerned that my 2 year old wants a college hockey player in her bed?
Michigan hockey gives out player cards with stats and things. We gave them to my daughter because everything is a toy, and now when she goes to bed she points to all the stuffed animals that she wants in her bed and names them, and the 1 player card that we haven't lost she also asks for by name.
 
wolverineTrumpet said:
Should I be concerned that my 2 year old wants a college hockey player in her bed?
Michigan hockey gives out player cards with stats and things. We gave them to my daughter because everything is a toy, and now when she goes to bed she points to all the stuffed animals that she wants in her bed and names them, and the 1 player card that we haven't lost she also asks for by name.
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Can she distinguish if you mess with her and give her another card?
 
Hi, this is Amber Marie's brain.
The reason she talks about doing seemingly routine tasks so much is up until recently, we didn't have an executive in here. We had Steve, an overworked and underpaid assistant manager, and M and J were two teenagers who wanted quick summer cash. Unfortunately, Steve was breaking down in the walk in cooler often, and M and J were watching TikTok videos instead of being on the register or making sure the candy was restocked.

Ever since we brought in Julia, M and J are much better at their jobs and Steve doesn't have to do so much. We even gave Steve a raise! We're turning things around up in here and we want you to know about it! Amber Marie is a powerful and capable human being, but she needed the right help!

That is all.
 
Good news from me today:
Keara at Head to Curve Photography and I had a 20 minute conversation today. I had inquired about a session with her earlier and she told me she admired my work and wanted me to be a model for her. I said yes and will be shooting with her either April 16 or 23.

I'm over the moon about this.
 
I took my daughter to the MN Zoo today. I. The Tropics Trail they have a Malayan tapir, and it just so happened to have a giant erection as we were passing. No joke, it was only stopped by plowing into the floor. Poor Mrs. Tapir.
 
I wrote this on Mother's Day.

It's Mother's Day.

Many of you know I lost my Mom in 2010 and certain days are awful without her.

But in the almost 12 years since her passing, I've been adopted and raised by some of the best women I could have asked for.

And at 40+, it's no longer enough to say "I'll do anything for you" or "I'll buy you anything I can afford." It's now abundantly clear I need to LIVE for my Mama Bears. You don't need another necklace that says "Mom" on it. You don't need me to take on a masked villain in a sword fight for you.

Instead, I'm committing to my personal growth and development.

I'm making better choices.

I'm getting some sleep.

And drinking water and eating vegetables.

No longer swinging between 100 MPH and 0.

Learning to maintain healthy relationships.

And to hold down a job and graduate with my MSW.

And to maintain sobriety.

After all, in the end, I just want to be the girl you say I am and the girl you know I can be. To show you that your efforts on me meant something.

I love you!
 
Wished a former co-worker at my ex-employer a "Happy Birthday!!" on LinkedIn today.

In reply, I was called a backstabbing, lying, piece of shit, all because I switched companies. And he closed by asking to never contact him again.

So I got that going for me. How's everyone else's day going? :D
 
aparch said:
Wished a former co-worker at my ex-employer a "Happy Birthday!!" on LinkedIn today.

In reply, I was called a backstabbing, lying, piece of ****, all because I switched companies. And he closed by asking to never contact him again.

So I got that going for me. How's everyone else's day going? :D
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So, that's a totally reasonable reaction, eh?
 
aparch said:
Wished a former co-worker at my ex-employer a "Happy Birthday!!" on LinkedIn today.

In reply, I was called a backstabbing, lying, piece of ****, all because I switched companies. And he closed by asking to never contact him again.

So I got that going for me. How's everyone else's day going? :D
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wow, that seems like a bit of an over-reaction.

I tell everyone that companies aren't loyal to employees anymore (if they ever were), so I'll never blame an employee for leaving if it's in their best interest. Which is what I told my employee yesterday when she turned in her 2 weeks notice.

I asked where she's going and what she's gonna be doing. Found out she's taking an easier job with a pay cut because I'm a terrible person to work for. I haven't learned to 'sandwich conversations' (good, bad, good) specifically in regards to when she asked about the opening we'll have in our department next month which would be a promotion for her. I thought I had approached it well. Told her the strengths and that I think she's smart enough, and should be able to do it, but also the areas I need to see improvement in before I could trust her with that role. It sucks 'cause I wish she had stepped up to the plate to show she could do it, but every time I tried to give her a harder (but reasonable) task she missed the deadline by a week or didn't complete it at all.

My boss and I have had the conversation about her, because last time the promotion position was open she didn't get it. We've talked how we wish she would step up but it hasn't happened. Honestly, I'm not too upset about her going. I am upset about her calling me out as the reason. I'm unfriendly and 'an Eeyore' apparently.
 
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