She apologized, said she never meant to say that, I did nothing wrong, etc.. I do believe her. I know it wasn't intentional, but I told her she put me in an awkward position. All she needed to do was text me right after that email and say something like "Hey, let me know if co-worker asks you anything about this. Tell her it's a sponsorship thing, not any of her concern." She said it seemed like I bent over backwards to make sure co-worker wasn't upset when I should have just told her that this is something for us. hat's why she called me that. I told her I thought her being added on to conversation was just yet another result of me being left out of a conversation and when co-worker emailed me, I told her, in my too nice of a way (apparently). Thankfully I didn't forward her the email I sent to co-worker. Her issue is she's fighting for our team to own something that's ours. We've had some concerns in our department that are totally valid. I did say this was not the first time she's called me that, made more of an issue this time because I felt she set me up. Regardless of her motives, which I'm OK with, she didn't inform me, knew co-worker was going to reach out to me and didn't clue me in.
I told you I had that meltdown in the fall as I feel completely left out of things going on with our team and I made the resolution this year to not let stupid personal slights bother me. So, I didn't tell her about the birthday card issue that also happened yesterday. One of my teammates' birthday is Sunday. Managers are supposed to get a card for their directs and send it around. Most of them send an email ahead of time to look out for it. Never saw it. Got back to my desk at 3pm yesterday when leaving at 4, saw a folder with a card, no context. I read it, my boss and co-worker have similar names/initials and my boss' birthday is on the 27th. Half the comments looked like they were for her, half for birthday teammate. I pulled aside our department admin to check. She thought card was for birthday teammate but did look and go, "Hmmm, I wonder what people did." Then she says she's out Friday. As is birthday teammate. I was literally walking out the door. Dept. Amin emails me, tells me other teammate who is BFFs with birthday teammate said she would fix some of the card (correct an initial, etc.) and give to birthday teammate that day. I emailed back OK. I'll get her my own card since I didn't sign that one. Dept. Admin tells me other teammate will sign my name. Yeah, that will go a long way. I want to know if an email went out that I was left off of and why did I not get it till 30 minutes before end of day when she's on my team. No one I can ask without sounding like the baby I do realize I sound like. I go to drop off the card I bought for her and see the card from the department and a separate card from my boss. OK, that was nice of her. I didn't get that for my birthday and almost didn't get the department one because she texted me a week before my birthday to say "Did I forget your birthday?" Other teammate's birthday is March 4th, so I'm keeping my mouth shut to see if she gets a separate card too. Again, this is so, so petty. But I need her to understand though it may be petty on my part and I need to not let it get to me, she needs to not discount the fact that these type of slights happen.
but should obviously know her charges and buttons (if an effective manager))
