Re: Rep Retirement Lodge 194: What to do now that winter has really started?
Got an email from a co-worker, who reports to my boss’ peer. My boss doesn’t get along with her peer. Her peer is this whiny, Debbie Downer type. I am totally on my boss’ side in whatever drama she has with her peer, because peer is such a pain. My boss sent an email this morning about this sponsor event for one of the conferences we sponsor and included co-worker. Which I thought was a bit odd, but co-worker works with me on these conferences. Anyway, co-worker emailed to ask about this sponsor event, is it something she needed to know about. I told her what it was, no she didn’t have to worry about it, that I went last year, got the invite for this year, sent to my boss as I think she should know of this event. Turns out my boss is going to the one in Texas, I’m going to the one here.
I had to leave at 4pm today and wanted to run into my boss’ office to let her know I was bolting at 4 and ask her if she was in the office tomorrow. Just as I was getting up to go in there, she IMs me asking “Did co-worker ask you about the email?” I went in to her office instead of replying, told her yes, and how I responded. She tells me she deliberately put co-worker on the email (I honestly can’t recall if peer was on it) and figured co-worker would come to me. When I told her what I emailed to co-worker, she said i shouldn’t have explained to the extent that I did, that I shouldn’t trust co-worker because she will go to the peer, etc. and called me a sucker. I didn’t really respond as I had to leave. She texted me about an hour later wanting to explain further. This time, though, I kinda let her have it. Told her I get her explanation, support her reasons but it would’ve been nice to know she did that deliberately to get the exact reaction so I could’ve tempered my response to co-worker. Instead, I respond like I always do and get called a sucker. Apparently that thick skin you keep telling me I need to grow isn’t fully in because that bothered me.
She responded about an hour later, she was sufficiently horrified she made me feel like **** and apologized profusely. Then she called. It I was at dinner with my family and couldn’t talk. Texted her to call me tomorrow. I could’ve taken it but I wasn’t in the mood to chat. Let her stew a bit.