Rep Retirement Lodge 106: My Team I Do Deeply Dig

[MarkEagleUSA]

Re: Rep Retirement Lodge 106: My Team I Do Deeply Dig

OK, I have to pose a question to the Lodge, but especially to anyone here who has older, "grown" children:

Do you ask or expect them to "check in" after travelling?

As the father of two girls in college, I've learned to let go while they're away (on campus). However, whenever they're home on break, etc, and decide they're going somewhere, I do like the courtesy of knowing they've arrived.

On the other hand, I do worry whenever I know they're travelling farther than normal. Probably due to the fact that my oldest was hit head-on at the end of her freshman year... I don't necesarily worry about them, but the other idiots on the road. I don't ever want to go through what I did that night.

 

[MarkEagleUSA]

Re: Rep Retirement Lodge 106: My Team I Do Deeply Dig

i told my mom 20 years ago.... "if the phone rings, it's because i'm dead"

I've had similar conversations with my mother. She still claims she can't sleep when she knows I'm on the road somewhere (of course, I've conveniently forgotten to tell her most of the time over the last 25 years or so).

 

[Hammer]

Re: Rep Retirement Lodge 106: My Team I Do Deeply Dig

When I went back to Ferris I always called to say that I arrived. Other than that, no.

 

[walrus]

Re: Rep Retirement Lodge 106: My Team I Do Deeply Dig

i told my mom 20 years ago.... "if the phone rings, it's because i'm dead"

Would she know the difference?

 

[crazytechfan]

Re: Rep Retirement Lodge 106: My Team I Do Deeply Dig

OK, I have to pose a question to the Lodge, but especially to anyone here who has older, "grown" children:

Do you ask or expect them to "check in" after travelling?

I guess I can pose this to the Lodge as a whole--are you unmarried, young people of the Lodge expected to check in?

I'm very much expected to check in.
Very annoying.

 

[MissThundercat]

Re: Rep Retirement Lodge 106: My Team I Do Deeply Dig

OK, I have to pose a question to the Lodge, but especially to anyone here who has older, "grown" children:

Do you ask or expect them to "check in" after travelling?

I guess I can pose this to the Lodge as a whole--are you unmarried, young people of the Lodge expected to check in?

I'm not expected to check in, but I always do.

 

[mookie1995]

Re: Rep Retirement Lodge 106: My Team I Do Deeply Dig

Would she know the difference?

more for closure.

we talk... sometimes

 

[nmupiccdiva]

Re: Rep Retirement Lodge 106: My Team I Do Deeply Dig

Thanks for the input, Lodge.
My family and I have never really gotten along super well (not anything too out there, I'm just definitely different in a lot of ways from all of them), so despite what you might see through photos and such, I don't feel like I'm super close with any of them.
But, when I was in school, if I went anywhere I called or messaged when I got there and when I got back. Even if it was just a small trip--camping somewhere, for example. And, obviously when I was in France I checked in every time we changed cities and when my plane landed back in Marquette. It was, on my end, more of a "keep them happy and keep myself out of trouble, seeing as how I'm still quite dependent on them" viewpoint.
However, lately, I've been travelling most weekends, and I've stopped checking in, mostly because even though I'm not completely stable I'm more or less completely independent of them. My parents, apparently, are not pleased with this. So, instead of picking up the phone and calling me, my mother goes to Facebook and leaves a string of passive messages.
I have no problems with her being upset. I do have problems with her addressing this over a Facebook wall post for the world to see instead of through a more personal method, such as the aforementioned phone call.

/rant. Pass me a beer.

 

[leswp1]

Re: Rep Retirement Lodge 106: My Team I Do Deeply Dig

BSU does not have a chance. Make sure you tell the team and the coach that BSU is lame and they should be looking past BSU in playing miami. miami will destroy uah because uah is 100 times lamer than BSU.

miami - 87
uah - 1

michigan - 45
BSU - 3

For those of you keeing score from home........little g is ok. Early stages of pneumonia as I expected. Caught it early enough to stop it before it got bad. However, if BSU loses to michigan little g is likely to get worse. Much worse. wT do you want that on your conscience?

Glad they caught it early!

OK, I have to pose a question to the Lodge, but especially to anyone here who has older, "grown" children:

Do you ask or expect them to "check in" after travelling?

I guess I can pose this to the Lodge as a whole--are you unmarried, young people of the Lodge expected to check in?

I am almost 50 and my mother has the annoying habit of calling when she thinks I am leaving- I have finally learned to leave without answering because she won't get off the phone. She also very annoyingly calls the minute we are walking thru the door when we get back. She is uncanny. No matter how many times I tell her not to call she does. We don't answer the phone when we walk thru the door now either. Most of the rest of the family emails an itinerary and then emails when they are home safe.

i told my mom 20 years ago.... "if the phone rings, it's because i'm dead"

This made me LOL.

 

[Twitch Boy]

Re: Rep Retirement Lodge 106: My Team I Do Deeply Dig

OK, I have to pose a question to the Lodge, but especially to anyone here who has older, "grown" children:

Do you ask or expect them to "check in" after travelling?

I guess I can pose this to the Lodge as a whole--are you unmarried, young people of the Lodge expected to check in?

My parents (specifically my mother) STILL ask me to at age 26. Hell, she demands I e-mail her copies of my itinerary when I fly.

A few years ago when I worked at Mosquito Control, we had a post-Friday-shift party at the foreman's house. Being 20 at the time, I considered myself an adult and didn't want to call my mom in front of everyone anyway, and ended up crashing on the foreman's couch for the night. My mother CALLED MY WORK THE NEXT MORNING to track me down, and my foreman told me she was looking for me in front of everybody.

And you wonder why I wanted the hell out of that house.

Clingy mother, accountant father, family is relatively tight with money...I think I'm secretly Jewish.

 

[leswp1]

Re: Rep Retirement Lodge 106: My Team I Do Deeply Dig

Thanks for the input, Lodge.
My family and I have never really gotten along super well (not anything too out there, I'm just definitely different in a lot of ways from all of them), so despite what you might see through photos and such, I don't feel like I'm super close with any of them.
But, when I was in school, if I went anywhere I called or messaged when I got there and when I got back. Even if it was just a small trip--camping somewhere, for example. And, obviously when I was in France I checked in every time we changed cities and when my plane landed back in Marquette. It was, on my end, more of a "keep them happy and keep myself out of trouble, seeing as how I'm still quite dependent on them" viewpoint.
However, lately, I've been travelling most weekends, and I've stopped checking in, mostly because even though I'm not completely stable I'm more or less completely independent of them. My parents, apparently, are not pleased with this. So, instead of picking up the phone and calling me, my mother goes to Facebook and leaves a string of passive messages.
I have no problems with her being upset. I do have problems with her addressing this over a Facebook wall post for the world to see instead of through a more personal method, such as the aforementioned phone call.

/rant. Pass me a beer.

Post back that some sick sweet thing about how glad you are you were raised so well that you can be independent. You know she is glad that she did such a great job of raising an independent, reponsible adult that doesn't need to rely on her parent like some of those sponge children do. (My first response was to hit the ignore button and block her from your stuff.)

 

[nmupiccdiva]

Re: Rep Retirement Lodge 106: My Team I Do Deeply Dig

My parents (specifically my mother) STILL ask me to at age 26. Hell, she demands I e-mail her copies of my itinerary when I fly.

A few years ago when I worked at Mosquito Control, we had a post-Friday-shift party at the foreman's house. Being 20 at the time, I considered myself an adult and didn't want to call my mom in front of everyone anyway, and ended up crashing on the foreman's couch for the night. My mother CALLED MY WORK THE NEXT MORNING to track me down, and my foreman told me she was looking for me in front of everybody.

And you wonder why I wanted the hell out of that house.

Clingy mother, accountant father, family is relatively tight with money...I think I'm secretly Jewish.

See, whenever I was home, out of courtesy I let them know where I was and an estimated return time. It was also a safety thing just in case something happened. More often that not it wound up blowing up in my face, but at least I did it. Calling work might be a little extreme, but I can somewhat see where your mom was coming from on this one.

 

[MarkEagleUSA]

Re: Rep Retirement Lodge 106: My Team I Do Deeply Dig

So, instead of picking up the phone and calling me, my mother goes to Facebook and leaves a string of passive messages.
I have no problems with her being upset. I do have problems with her addressing this over a Facebook wall post for the world to see instead of through a more personal method, such as the aforementioned phone call.

The way I see it you have two options here.

1) Unfriend her on Facebook so she can't do that.

2) Tell her to sign up here and be upset with you in a much more intimate setting!

 

[Twitch Boy]

Re: Rep Retirement Lodge 106: My Team I Do Deeply Dig

Thanks for the input, Lodge.
My family and I have never really gotten along super well (not anything too out there, I'm just definitely different in a lot of ways from all of them), so despite what you might see through photos and such, I don't feel like I'm super close with any of them.
But, when I was in school, if I went anywhere I called or messaged when I got there and when I got back. Even if it was just a small trip--camping somewhere, for example. And, obviously when I was in France I checked in every time we changed cities and when my plane landed back in Marquette. It was, on my end, more of a "keep them happy and keep myself out of trouble, seeing as how I'm still quite dependent on them" viewpoint.
However, lately, I've been travelling most weekends, and I've stopped checking in, mostly because even though I'm not completely stable I'm more or less completely independent of them. My parents, apparently, are not pleased with this. So, instead of picking up the phone and calling me, my mother goes to Facebook and leaves a string of passive messages.
I have no problems with her being upset. I do have problems with her addressing this over a Facebook wall post for the world to see instead of through a more personal method, such as the aforementioned phone call.

/rant. Pass me a beer.

I have her comeuppance typed and ready for posting on said wall. Just give the green light.

 

[leswp1]

Re: Rep Retirement Lodge 106: My Team I Do Deeply Dig

We could all start asking why she was being that way on your wall, all innocent like...

 

[Twitch Boy]

Re: Rep Retirement Lodge 106: My Team I Do Deeply Dig

We could all start asking why she was being that way on your wall, all innocent like...

That's essentially the plan on my end.

 

[SiouxTechie]

Re: Rep Retirement Lodge 106: My Team I Do Deeply Dig

Hi Lodge.

1) I'm applying to some schools. That's all I'll say on that so I don't jinx it too much.

2) Diva, I don't get along with my family either and am quite independent of them. Most of the time, I don't even tell them when I'm going places and then just ignore them while I'm gone. Unless it's longer than just a weekend away, I tell them where I'm going and when I plan on being back, but nothing else.

 

[hockeyplayer1015]

Re: Rep Retirement Lodge 106: My Team I Do Deeply Dig

Typically when I head back to school I will call or be called by my parents. When I head home, I'll usually give them a call halfway or so updating my ETA since it's usually well past dark (sometimes as late as midnight or later), and my biggest risk of traffic is leaving the city.

Whenever I've flown somewhere I've also let them know I'm on the ground and whatever, just more of a courtesy than anything. Once I get a job that will change, they won't know whenever I'll be in port.

 

[mookie1995]

Re: Rep Retirement Lodge 106: My Team I Do Deeply Dig

We could all start asking why she was being that way on your wall, all innocent like...

only place she knew of to find 'diva (like MEUsa said, mama needs to get some rep and be 'llowed in tLodge )

 

[nmupiccdiva]

Re: Rep Retirement Lodge 106: My Team I Do Deeply Dig

NO. Don't reply to her. I spoke with her and ironed things out. But, still, I'm a bit annoyed--phones work TWO ways. If you want to talk to me, you can call me, too. Don't just sulk because I haven't contacted you.