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Ginding away- stop putting sand in my oil... Part 4

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JuveGG24 said:
People who listen to music without headphones on mass transit should be shot out of a cannon into the the sun.
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You should sit next to them and sing along - loudly and badly. :D If you can sing a completely different song than they are trying to play even better!
 
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goldy_331 said:
You should sit next to them and sing along - loudly and badly. :D If you can sing a completely different song than they are trying to play even better!
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I tried something like that on the train the other day. The person sitting next to me on train was jabbering away on her cell phone really loudly for a long time, so I took out my phone and pushed a button to sound a ringtone, as if I had an incoming call. Then I started talking loudly, I said "you'll have to speak up, the person next to me is talking so loudly I can barely hear you."


No, I didn't really do that,sigh...but a person can dream, no?
 
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dxmnkd316 said:
Isn't that illegal (the radio) in some states?
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I can't speak for illegal, I don't know, but on RTD (Denver's transit system) it is grounds for getting kicked off the bus/light rail.
 
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Anyone ever had trouble with an iTunes Store purchase? I bought a CD today and when trying to play it with iTunes it skips from the 1st song about half way through to the start of the 5th song and won't play several of the songs at all. When I look in my library all 10 songs look as though they were dl in full and none have the ! error icon on the left side you sometimes get with a bad dl. I have bought from iTues before without issue. I considered DL again via the store hoping that since it was already purchased it would not charge me again but decided against it. I did send an e-mail to support but thought I'd check here if anyone's had to go though this before.
 
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Forced Family Fun soon. Grinds my gears that the other side of the family is all fighting with each other. No one holds anyone else accountable for anything instead we are all supposed to dance around the fact that X will show up if they feel like like it and Y is a Richard Cranium who doesn't play well with others and decrees the way he thinks it shoud be when there are 16 people to deal with. I miss my Auntie. She would have told them to all stop being a square a55holes and knock it off. Instead a bunch of excuses makes everyone is miserable. grr.
 
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leswp1 said:
Forced Family Fun soon. Grinds my gears that the other side of the family is all fighting with each other. No one holds anyone else accountable for anything instead we are all supposed to dance around the fact that X will show up if they feel like like it and Y is a Richard Cranium who doesn't play well with others and decrees the way he thinks it shoud be when there are 16 people to deal with. I miss my Auntie. She would have told them to all stop being a square a55holes and knock it off. Instead a bunch of excuses makes everyone is miserable. grr.
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Maybe you should play Auntie.
 
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goldy_331 said:
Maybe you should play Auntie.
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I wish. I don't own the place. The person who does doesn't like discord. The result is that all of the people who play by the rules are insane with aggravation. The Richards are from the other branch of the family. The other side is like dealing with alcoholics. They all are angry butdance around and make excuses for the behavior. None of my branch will go anymore because all the garbage. I get asked to go because she doesn't want to be in the place with the Richards by herself. She has done alot of stuff for me so I go.

Last yr was the culmination of idiocy that made me realize I am done with wasting my vacation on this debacle. One of the Richards did something way over the line. The rest were all horrified about what was done. They were all in the house buzzing like a bunch of angry bees in a bottle but no one said anything to the person who did it (horrors, why would you do that?). Much better to stand there for an hr categorizing all the stupid things they have done (this was not enough time, this Rchard is king Richard). When I pointed out they were flapping thier gums but until someone had the balls to say something it would keep getting worse- as it has been for yrs- they came up with every reason in the book about why not to say something. I caused a commotion and am evil/ a sewer of discord because I let the house owner know.

Compounded by one of the other Richards saying they were showing up in the AM for the big family thing. Another family group waited until 5PM to see them and finally left. They showed up at dinner time without what they were to bring and never blinked an eye that they put out 10 other people. The mother of that Richard didn't want anyone to say anything because maybe the next time he wouldn't come. :rolleyes: Yeah. Maybe that would be alright.
 
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Being overly sensitive (which is annoying and asks a lot of the people around you) is not the same thing as being empathetic (which is an important tool to get through life on a world filled with *******s).

Many times, people who suffer the former wrongly attribute it to their delusion that it's caused by the latter. And it's really annoying.
 
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les- maybe I have very little paitence for family crap- but I would not go. And I would tell people why.

Family is important, indeed. But #1 is MY family, and if others make my family miserable, I would see no point in going. It's just not worth it.

But that's just me.
 
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real ginder.

Bats.

What a pain. They are local carriers of rabies around here, so if you get woken up in the night by a bat, it's off to start the shots unless you catch it. We didn't. oh, well. Rather deal with shots over the possible alternative.

And we will evict them from our house. Not cheap, but worth it.
 
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I'm told that if you hit a bat with a tennis racket, it's basically like coring an apple.

I'd love to know if that's true.
 
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leswp1 said:
I wish. I don't own the place. The person who does doesn't like discord. The result is that all of the people who play by the rules are insane with aggravation. The Richards are from the other branch of the family. The other side is like dealing with alcoholics. They all are angry butdance around and make excuses for the behavior. None of my branch will go anymore because all the garbage. I get asked to go because she doesn't want to be in the place with the Richards by herself. She has done alot of stuff for me so I go.

Last yr was the culmination of idiocy that made me realize I am done with wasting my vacation on this debacle. One of the Richards did something way over the line. The rest were all horrified about what was done. They were all in the house buzzing like a bunch of angry bees in a bottle but no one said anything to the person who did it (horrors, why would you do that?). Much better to stand there for an hr categorizing all the stupid things they have done (this was not enough time, this Rchard is king Richard). When I pointed out they were flapping thier gums but until someone had the balls to say something it would keep getting worse- as it has been for yrs- they came up with every reason in the book about why not to say something. I caused a commotion and am evil/ a sewer of discord because I let the house owner know.

Compounded by one of the other Richards saying they were showing up in the AM for the big family thing. Another family group waited until 5PM to see them and finally left. They showed up at dinner time without what they were to bring and never blinked an eye that they put out 10 other people. The mother of that Richard didn't want anyone to say anything because maybe the next time he wouldn't come. :rolleyes: Yeah. Maybe that would be alright.
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This sounds like an awesome powder keg just waiting for someone to light the fuse. :D
 
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Les, start your own get together of some kind with your family that isn't obnoxious. It wouldn't have to be the same kind of thing, it could be smaller if that would be less stressful, but then you'd get the enjoyment out of seeing the family that you want to see and you wouldn't have to deal with the BS. You could invite the family member that asks you to go now, and that family member would probably be happy for the change.
 
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leswp1 said:
I wish. I don't own the place. The person who does doesn't like discord. The result is that all of the people who play by the rules are insane with aggravation. The Richards are from the other branch of the family. The other side is like dealing with alcoholics. They all are angry butdance around and make excuses for the behavior. None of my branch will go anymore because all the garbage. I get asked to go because she doesn't want to be in the place with the Richards by herself. She has done alot of stuff for me so I go.

Last yr was the culmination of idiocy that made me realize I am done with wasting my vacation on this debacle. One of the Richards did something way over the line. The rest were all horrified about what was done. They were all in the house buzzing like a bunch of angry bees in a bottle but no one said anything to the person who did it (horrors, why would you do that?). Much better to stand there for an hr categorizing all the stupid things they have done (this was not enough time, this Rchard is king Richard). When I pointed out they were flapping thier gums but until someone had the balls to say something it would keep getting worse- as it has been for yrs- they came up with every reason in the book about why not to say something. I caused a commotion and am evil/ a sewer of discord because I let the house owner know.

Compounded by one of the other Richards saying they were showing up in the AM for the big family thing. Another family group waited until 5PM to see them and finally left. They showed up at dinner time without what they were to bring and never blinked an eye that they put out 10 other people. The mother of that Richard didn't want anyone to say anything because maybe the next time he wouldn't come. :rolleyes: Yeah. Maybe that would be alright.
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One way to bring this to a discussion is to use the third person objective tense: "When other people are in similar situations, here is how they tend to respond...." or "Other people in similar situations say that if everyone remains silent, they deprive the person who is offending them with the opportunity to mend their ways....you really would not want deliberately to offend us, right? and so we infer that you must be unaware of the effect your actions are having...."

If the other person then says "I don't care that I'm upsetting you" you can then say "well, bye then" with composure and dignity; else they change their ways.

it doesn't have to be flat out confrontation because it's not about you, it's about those generally-accepted social standards defined by "other people in similar situations." It might sound corny and also it has proven to be effective!
 
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alfablue said:
les- maybe I have very little paitence for family crap- but I would not go. And I would tell people why.

Family is important, indeed. But #1 is MY family, and if others make my family miserable, I would see no point in going. It's just not worth it.

But that's just me.
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We have been going for this since I was 4 (about 45 yrs). Both my aunts owned the house and invited us all and for yrs it worked because my AUntie with the cajones had an iron fist and no one dared disrespect her. The aunt with the cajones died. The other aunt has no one left so we are surrogate family. She has been like a second mother to me and stuck by me through really rough stuff. I couldn't do it for more than a few days but after all she has done for my family we do it.

As to the start your own thing- my branch is a twig. They have all moved on to other stuff. When this aunt goes then we will probably have minimal or any contact with the other side. This is one of the last things left that we do together. They live pretty far away and don't have any motivation to do anything my little twig would find easy. I feel bad for my aunt. She is miserable dealing with it but can't bring herself to detach because she loves the kids and because the other aunt was sooooo insistant that family was so important you held it together no matter what.

ExileOnDaytonStreet said:
I'm told that if you hit a bat with a tennis racket, it's like coring an apple.
I'd love to know if that's true.
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Mr.les has used a very good badmitten racket. NO coring ever occured. It bounces to the ground stunned. Slap the mayo jar over the top of it. Slide cardboard under the jar, lid on. boom.
 
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