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Gear Grinding Part 5: The Story of the Broken Tooth

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Unless you have a health reason to go gluten free it is actually not helpful at all for you to do so. Lots of ways to eat healthy without that.

Your point though is correct and has been a bone of contention for quite some time. I would say more but we dont need politics in here :)
 
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Handyman said:
Unless you have a health reason to go gluten free it is actually not helpful at all for you to do so. Lots of ways to eat healthy without that.

Your point though is correct and has been a bone of contention for quite some time. I would say more but we dont need politics in here :)
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My wife actually does need to because of her PCOS. (The gluten helps make the hormones that cause cysts in her ovaries.) I'm eating with her being a supportive husband.

I read you loud and clear on the politics part.
 
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My girlfriend has gluten issues as well...some gluten free stuff is mighty delicious :)
 
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leswp1 said:
Well, he wants a relationship but isn't very good at it. As the 'kid' in the relationship you aren't responsible for making him act like a grown up. You, can act like a grown upt tho. If he is a roommate then you don't expect as much or feel the urge to give as much. He is behaving like a roommate so you should too. Less pressure on you.
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Rather than making assumptions as to how his father views the treatment of Bob, Bob should talk to the man about what is grinding his gears. The father may be looking at the situation with an entirely different perspective than Bob does. From the outside looking in, and only what I know from these boards, Bob's a college graduate in his late 20's or early 30's who's living at home with his dad; I believe he's even said that this is his step-father, which can change the dynamic all that much more. I believe that the situation is Bob living there rent free, based upon things Bob has posted in other threads, and as such, his dad might be making assumptions as to certain tasks required of Bob. At the same time, his dad holds the ultimate trump card in any decision - it's his house and Bob's likely living there rent free, or at a reduced rate, and perhaps he's not contributing to the monthly gas, electric, cable/internet bills either, as is often the case for adult children living with their parents. Pushing the roommate idea without consulting his father could also cause his father to start demanding money for room and board or Bob needing to find another place to live.

I say all of that just to say this: Talk with the man, Bob. It might be difficult, but if this stuff is truly important to you you'll need to talk with him. It's a better solution than turning cold towards him without explanation.
 
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St. Clown said:
Rather than making assumptions as to how his father views the treatment of Bob, Bob should talk to the man about what is grinding his gears. The father may be looking at the situation with an entirely different perspective than Bob does. From the outside looking in, and only what I know from these boards, Bob's a college graduate in his late 20's or early 30's who's living at home with his dad; I believe he's even said that this is his step-father, which can change the dynamic all that much more. I believe that the situation is Bob living there rent free, based upon things Bob has posted in other threads, and as such, his dad might be making assumptions as to certain tasks required of Bob. At the same time, his dad holds the ultimate trump card in any decision - it's his house and Bob's likely living there rent free, or at a reduced rate, and perhaps he's not contributing to the monthly gas, electric, cable/internet bills either, as is often the case for adult children living with their parents. Pushing the roommate idea without consulting his father could also cause his father to start demanding money for room and board or Bob needing to find another place to live.

I say all of that just to say this: Talk with the man, Bob. It might be difficult, but if this stuff is truly important to you you'll need to talk with him. It's a better solution than turning cold towards him without explanation.
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I do live here, but it's not rent free. I draw SSI, and that goes towards house expenses. Not to mention covering the DirecTV bill, helping with food costs, and throwing in for gas from time to time, since we share a car.

And I have spoken with him several times. I have asked him to commit to a time to clean the house, reminded him to throw the box/bag away when he's eaten the last one, and I have really tried to remind him that one day, I will be gone.
 
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ShirtlessBob said:
I do live here, but it's not rent free. I draw SSI, and that goes towards house expenses. Not to mention covering the DirecTV bill, helping with food costs, and throwing in for gas from time to time, since we share a car.

And I have spoken with him several times. I have asked him to commit to a time to clean the house, reminded him to throw the box/bag away when he's eaten the last one, and I have really tried to remind him that one day, I will be gone.
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Clown-
See above. Not making assumptions. Ongoing battle. At some point there needs to be a paradigm shift from trying to change another person's behavior to doing what you need to do to be healthy and not let them live rent free in your head. This wasn't a commentary on the father's behavior so much as an encouragement to stop expecting change on the Dad's part. He isn't going to change. He has done things this way for ever and that is his coping skill- let other people do it. That is OK, but you don't need to be the person to be the doing.
 
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ShirtlessBob said:
I do live here, but it's not rent free. I draw SSI, and that goes towards house expenses. Not to mention covering the DirecTV bill, helping with food costs, and throwing in for gas from time to time, since we share a car.

And I have spoken with him several times. I have asked him to commit to a time to clean the house, reminded him to throw the box/bag away when he's eaten the last one, and I have really tried to remind him that one day, I will be gone.
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Seems pretty clear that speaking with him is pointless. Here is an idea you might consider: leave notes instead.

and in the notes, don't try to arrange anything with him. Merely state what you will be doing.

"Unless I hear otherwise, i will do my share of the house-cleaning on Friday from 2 - 3 PM. You can join me if you like, else I will do it on my own."

etc. etc.

or: "based on my accounting, I have contributed $xx to the following expenses." if that is needed. You are not "discussing" anything, you are clarifying / informing. It is a way to act like roommates.
 
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One of my neighbors posted an invitation on the neighborhood Facebook page to a silent auction to raise over $40,000 so they can adopt two babies from China. They live in a $450,000 house in Iowa (equivalent to probably a $750,000 house out east). That takes some balls to ask other people to donate when you clearly could have the money yourself if you didn't spend it all elsewhere.
 
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One of my neighbors posted an invitation on the neighborhood Facebook page to a silent auction to raise over $40,000 so they can adopt two babies from China. They live in a $450,000 house in Iowa (equivalent to probably a $750,000 house out east). That takes some balls to ask other people to donate when you clearly could have the money yourself if you didn't spend it all elsewhere.
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But it's for the CHILDREN!!!
 
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unofan said:
One of my neighbors posted an invitation on the neighborhood Facebook page to a silent auction to raise over $40,000 so they can adopt two babies from China. They live in a $450,000 house in Iowa (equivalent to probably a $750,000 house out east). That takes some balls to ask other people to donate when you clearly could have the money yourself if you didn't spend it all elsewhere.
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I could use the money and/or the children. However, I don't have a lot of cash so I'm farked.
 
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unofan said:
One of my neighbors posted an invitation on the neighborhood Facebook page to a silent auction to raise over $40,000 so they can adopt two babies from China. They live in a $450,000 house in Iowa (equivalent to probably a $750,000 house out east). That takes some balls to ask other people to donate when you clearly could have the money yourself if you didn't spend it all elsewhere.
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I don't know anything about your neighbors, and I agree they seem to have a lot of chutzpah with that plea. But I refuse to measure wealth or availability of cash by the FMV of someone's house. Some of the most cash-poor people I know live in $500,000 houses in the midwest. Probably paying $3500 month in mortgage payments, big insurance premiums, etc...

I was invited to a couple's house last year, had to be $500,000 plus. In the main living room they had a tv sitting on a $20 end table, one couch and a bean bag chair. :p But they had a $500,000 house. :rolleyes:
 
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I don't want to turn this into a political thread and ruin it so I'll tread lightly. What's grinding me right now is the assault of political ads that's only getting worse. And it's been on for two months already!
 
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Jimjamesak said:
I don't want to turn this into a political thread and ruin it so I'll tread lightly. What's grinding me right now is the assault of political ads that's only getting worse. And it's been on for two months already!
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I think everyone can agree with that, regardless of political affiliation/beliefs. I get driven up the wall annoyed by the ads for the idiots I vote for just as much as by the idiots I'd never vote for.
 
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But does all that political spending $timulate the economy?
 
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bigblue_dl said:
I think everyone can agree with that, regardless of political affiliation/beliefs. I get driven up the wall annoyed by the ads for the idiots I vote for just as much as by the idiots I'd never vote for.
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Yes, it happened to be the Tea Party candidate who I'd never vote for in 1000 years, but I got really ****ed off when I saw the first yard sign for the general election literally the day after the primaries, five freaking months before the general election. And I know it was for the general election because it wasn't in the yard prior to the primaries.
 
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Yes, it happened to be the Tea Party candidate who I'd never vote for in 1000 years, but I got really ****ed off when I saw the first yard sign for the general election literally the day after the primaries, five freaking months before the general election. And I know it was for the general election because it wasn't in the yard prior to the primaries.
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Christmas decorations are out in some stores in August.
 
bigblue_dl said:
I think everyone can agree with that, regardless of political affiliation/beliefs. I get driven up the wall annoyed by the ads for the idiots I vote for just as much as by the idiots I'd never vote for.
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Oh no it is far far worse here in Alaska. We are getting bombarded with political ads and we haven't even had the primary election.

First, one of our Senate seats is up. It's Mark Begich's seat, the guy who defeated Ted Stevens six years ago. So because he's a Democrat and his seat is viewed as potential pick up for the GOP everybody and their Super PAC is buying time plus the candidates themselves.

Second, there's a proposition regarding whether we should repeal our oil tax laws that get recently went into effect with huge breaks for the oil companies. So the oil companies (and some unions and associated businesses) are spending huge amounts of money and airtime to try to vote it down.

Third, we have a Governor's race, our House seat of course (although I don't think anybody is challenging Don Young seriously), and a Marijuana legalization proposition!

It's actually so bad, the TV stations won't sell airtime to candidates in local and State elections.
 
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