Re: Transfers thread
So, your defense is that your comment had nothing whatsoever to do with the actual subject of the thread and was just included for no real reason? Color me deeply skeptical about that. It looks like an attempt to dodge the obvious meaning of what you meant, which is that the loyalty of athletes that transfer is suspect. Worth noting is that that sentence was not the only mention of loyalty in the post I quoted. There was also, "Immediate play transfers also rub me the wrong way. It's yet another case where individual self-interest takes absolute priority over "old fashioned" values like loyalty."
You are very clearly implicating the loyalty of the athletes, and are now misrepresenting your statements in order to backtrack.
Not backtracking. My opinion continues to be that our society tends to undervalue loyalty.
However: I do not believe that athletes are worse than other groups, and I didn't say that. In fact, athletes value loyalty
more than other groups. At least that was my experience at the modest levels I competed at. More on that below.
All of us are members of groups, not just athletes. Within those groups, each of us has every right to act in our self-interest. I have no problem with concept of putting on one's own oxygen mask before attempting to assist others. Saying that people act in their self-interest isn't an insult or an attack, it's a description of reality. Get angry and defensive if you want. But these days most people openly take pride in acting in their self-interest.
It's inevitable that self-interest will play a role. The only question is how much.
It's equally self-evident that our individual actions can impact others in the group/company/team. All I've asked is that impact be given some consideration; that self-interest not be the only relevant variable. Asking people to open their minds and consider other factors? Perhaps a challenge, but definitely not an attack.
I don't regard my posts on this thread as perfectly crafted. But I most certainly did not call out any individual athlete for transferring. And if my attitude toward athletes as a group was somehow unclear before, the above clarification should satisfy any fair-minded reader.
Of course you are not a fair-minded reader.
...The real issue, though, is in the attitude that a significant minority of sports fans take towards athletes. This is not limited to college sports, though it is most noxious there. Your invocation of sports as an "escape from the business world" in the context of a discussion about an athlete's obligations and holding them to a higher standard is a prime example. It ignores the fact that, for the athletes, sports is the business world. All of the things that you feel that they should help you escape from are an inescapable piece of what sports is for them. Your plea that athletes hold themselves to a "higher standard than would be required by most other endeavors" is a plea that they set aside their own interests in ways that people do not do elsewhere, in order to reduce the stress in your life.
Stop thinking that making sports an escape from the business world is in any way their responsibility, because it isn't and arguments that it should be inherently mean that you think that you have a claim on their behavior. If you want sports to play that role in your life, then it is up to you to extract it.
You are wildly wrong about my motivation for being involved in sports. Not that I gave you enough information to draw legitimate conclusions on that point; I didn't. But again, you just assume whatever you want because you like knocking over the straw man.
When I've participated in sports, one of my favorite things about it was the bond between teammates, during competition and otherwise. When I've participated as player's parent, I've taken a lot of satisfaction in supporting the whole team, not just my own kid. In other words, cheering for the other players; sharing the experience with the other parents. But believe me, stress relief has nothing to do with it. Being a player's parent has proven to be much more stressful than being an athlete ever was. And yet, I love it.
I understand & fully accept that the connection with a D-1 athlete is much more limited than with a family member. For my part, I don't make any effort to pal around with the Buckeye players or their parents. And yet, I care about the quality of their experience, and support them within the limits of the role I've chosen.
Maintaining a connection to a world where teammates and loyalty still count for something is my escape; that's the element I'm trying to protect. I want today's kids to have the same positive experience I had -- be they family members in high school sports or D-1 Buckeyes. Is that really so evil?
That's something truly worth defending, IMHO. But you seem utterly detached from what I feel is central to the experience. On this last point, I'm not offended. Baffled would be more like it.