Oh God, I feel you here. I had a talking to about developing a "growth mindset" and that I need to start thinking about how to grow my position because I "run a function" and now report to a VP (my boss got promoted and a larger team last year). My boss did a 360 review on me last month and shared the results with me Wednesday. She went to 5 or 6 folks that I work with and asked them to provide my strengths and opportunities. She prefaced it by saying she's had two of these done on her and it was difficult and to take these comments with a grain of salt. But it's hard to do when reading that stuff about myself from people I confided/vented to as a one-to-one friendship conversation and seeing they took that to mean I need to be more. So, I guess I won't be venting to anyone any more. You guys will get the brunt of that.
I sent her an email today as a response to an email she sent this morning to our team about some lower level kind of work I will take over. She had called me into her office about 4:45pm last night while meeting with two of my teammates and mentioned this and would I be OK and of course I said yes. I'm always happy and willing to help out the team but I felt, based on the email and the responses that had all been having conversations without me and made this decision. So, I said I'm doing what she coached me on and not letting things fester and standing up for myself and asked for a face to face with either just her or the whole team for a clarifying discussion on roles and responsibilities. It seemed that changes were being made to my job responsibilities without my input and that wasn't fair or respectful to me. She emailed back and provided more context. I think she was annoyed because in the past, when she gets emails like that, she texts and then calls to talk about it and this time she sent an email. And now that I re-read what I sent her, I probably could have worded the email a little differently. But I'm getting a little frustrated after being the person everyone goes to for work others don't want to do. I honestly don't mind doing work like that, I just want to be in on the conversation about it.