Re: He's dead, Jim.
Tattoos aren't my cup of tea and I think a lot less people would get them if they realized how bad they'll look down the road, but I can respect folks who get them for a meaningful reason for them, as you discuss.This is what bothers me about some who get inked. They get it because "it looks cool." Not acceptable to me. Have it mean something to you. It's (probably/should be) permanent. My brother finally got a tattoo (he always wanted one). Unfortunately, it wasn't the one he's had drawn up for years. It's a tribute tattoo to his wife, who passed away last year. I currently have four, all mean something to me, and will be getting a fifth one this summer: a tribute tattoo to my (soon forthcoming) son.
And PLEASE understand that if one gets a tattoo that one cannot hide...good luck in the job market in general.
One of the coolest tattoos I've seen was on a former co-worker. He was Hmong, and he had a sleeve. Part of the sleeve was three flowers: one about to bloom, one in full bloom, and one that was wilted. Full color. I asked what it meant, and he said it represented birth, life, and death. It was really beautiful.
Edit: SJHovey: if it ends up looked a little off...so be it. As long as it still means something to you. Ink is for you, not anyone else. You know?