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A Thread for prayers, good vibes and what have you
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Re: A Thread for prayers, good vibes and what have you
Hadn't visited this thread before, but it sounds like good news for your Dad. Laker, hope always continues to be good news for your family.
My roomate had a kidney removed on Apr. 19. And although the recovery is progressing, he has diabetes and high blood pressure which are not helping. Plus a benign tumor, at last test, on the nerve in the hip opposite the kidney that was removed. Surgeon says that cancer had not spread, but you always still worry.
Hadn't visited this thread before, but it sounds like good news for your Dad. Laker, hope always continues to be good news for your family.
My roomate had a kidney removed on Apr. 19. And although the recovery is progressing, he has diabetes and high blood pressure which are not helping. Plus a benign tumor, at last test, on the nerve in the hip opposite the kidney that was removed. Surgeon says that cancer had not spread, but you always still worry.
leswp1
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Re: A Thread for prayers, good vibes and what have you
Prayers headed his way vizaroo.
gmann
Cheer up, the worst is yet to come
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My friend has been fighting the fight. I spent some time with him yesterday and I left feeling pretty good about things. However, I woke up this morning to a text from his wife. "**** was airlifted to Rochester in very critical condition with an infection. It is touch and go. We need your prayers."
If you are so inclined, please say a prayer for my friend.
My friend has been fighting the fight. I spent some time with him yesterday and I left feeling pretty good about things. However, I woke up this morning to a text from his wife. "**** was airlifted to Rochester in very critical condition with an infection. It is touch and go. We need your prayers."
If you are so inclined, please say a prayer for my friend.
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My thoughts and prayers go out to all of you that are either experiencing a hardship or illness for yourself or for your family.
I just lost my 70 year old father in law on the 11th. He was being treated for colon cancer and had surgery in January to remove a section. He underwent radiation and was undergoing chemotherapy. To complicate matters, he was extremely overweight (6'0" 245) diabetic, had HBP and as previously treated for cancer spots on his bladder. Toss in a blown out knee that he wouldn't get fixed, too. He was in constant pain.
He got through the surgery in good order and the radiation- which was delicate since the disease was in the colo-rectal area. Our family took turns taking him to treatment and doctors. His biggest enemy, though, was himself. He refused to change his diet, which in the end, is what killed him. He suffered the usual side affects from chemo, but his diet made matters worse.
The doctors had warned him about sodium intake and how dangerous it was interacting with his chemotherapy. He would develop tongue and facial swelling. Finally, on the 11th, with 4 months of treatment left, and a decent chance at beating cancer, he ate too much sodium rich food, suffered anaphylactic shock and refused to immediately go to the hospital. He finally went, but too late and died from asphyxiation resulting from his air passages being closed off. The doctors couldn't even save him with a tracheotomy... it was too late.
He didn't want to suffer and die with cancer. Two years ago he watched his brother die from ALS after a three year battle. So, God does work, albeit not always in the timing and manner we want. But my father in law helped- and put God to the test one too many times. It was grotesque seeing him after he passed and very hard on my wife and mom in law. The good news is, we are a family of salvation and faith and so was he. We know he is not suffering now, and we'll join him some day.
So, the lesson is- help your family, learn all you can about treatments, interactions and so forth. Don't fight your health care-take as good of your own care as you can and don't deny treatment. It will save a ton of heartache, grief and guilt for your family.
As for me, I am left to cleaning up his financial house (which I thankfully convinced him to place into Trust status months before) and his property (literally) as well as act as therapist for my family-listening to the woulda coulda, shoulda's and letting my family express their anger and frustration over a needless and tragic event.
My thoughts and prayers go out to all of you that are either experiencing a hardship or illness for yourself or for your family.
I just lost my 70 year old father in law on the 11th. He was being treated for colon cancer and had surgery in January to remove a section. He underwent radiation and was undergoing chemotherapy. To complicate matters, he was extremely overweight (6'0" 245) diabetic, had HBP and as previously treated for cancer spots on his bladder. Toss in a blown out knee that he wouldn't get fixed, too. He was in constant pain.
He got through the surgery in good order and the radiation- which was delicate since the disease was in the colo-rectal area. Our family took turns taking him to treatment and doctors. His biggest enemy, though, was himself. He refused to change his diet, which in the end, is what killed him. He suffered the usual side affects from chemo, but his diet made matters worse.
The doctors had warned him about sodium intake and how dangerous it was interacting with his chemotherapy. He would develop tongue and facial swelling. Finally, on the 11th, with 4 months of treatment left, and a decent chance at beating cancer, he ate too much sodium rich food, suffered anaphylactic shock and refused to immediately go to the hospital. He finally went, but too late and died from asphyxiation resulting from his air passages being closed off. The doctors couldn't even save him with a tracheotomy... it was too late.
He didn't want to suffer and die with cancer. Two years ago he watched his brother die from ALS after a three year battle. So, God does work, albeit not always in the timing and manner we want. But my father in law helped- and put God to the test one too many times. It was grotesque seeing him after he passed and very hard on my wife and mom in law. The good news is, we are a family of salvation and faith and so was he. We know he is not suffering now, and we'll join him some day.
So, the lesson is- help your family, learn all you can about treatments, interactions and so forth. Don't fight your health care-take as good of your own care as you can and don't deny treatment. It will save a ton of heartache, grief and guilt for your family.
As for me, I am left to cleaning up his financial house (which I thankfully convinced him to place into Trust status months before) and his property (literally) as well as act as therapist for my family-listening to the woulda coulda, shoulda's and letting my family express their anger and frustration over a needless and tragic event.
leswp1
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streaker- what you describe is a horribly frustrating journey for your family. My prayers are with you.
I deal with a lot of these types of patients and also had a Christian Scientist for a grandmother (at least I understood faith as a motivation!) Altho it defies logic, there are some people that rebel against following treatment plans even if they know it will be fatal. A lot of the time people will say they are in denial but in my experience it is more about control than denial. They are cognizant in what they are doing. They would rather take the consequence, even if it is death, than sacrifice what they feel is the control over their life. It is every person's right to make their own decision, but that decision is a selfish one when it leaves the family holding the mess. It leaves lasting memories of bitterness, frustration and anger for memories rather than the good memories they would rather have. When they were sick people feel they should not say anything because the person is sick. Worse is that there is no one to direct the anger at when the person is gone.
Prayers for all of you. It isn't easy to have the last memory be the ones you have. (unsolicited advice) You might want to consider grief counseling or support group for you and yours. It can be wonderfully helpful and it can be very freeing to see others who have your same feelings
Prayers that way gmann.
streaker- what you describe is a horribly frustrating journey for your family. My prayers are with you.
I deal with a lot of these types of patients and also had a Christian Scientist for a grandmother (at least I understood faith as a motivation!) Altho it defies logic, there are some people that rebel against following treatment plans even if they know it will be fatal. A lot of the time people will say they are in denial but in my experience it is more about control than denial. They are cognizant in what they are doing. They would rather take the consequence, even if it is death, than sacrifice what they feel is the control over their life. It is every person's right to make their own decision, but that decision is a selfish one when it leaves the family holding the mess. It leaves lasting memories of bitterness, frustration and anger for memories rather than the good memories they would rather have. When they were sick people feel they should not say anything because the person is sick. Worse is that there is no one to direct the anger at when the person is gone.
Prayers for all of you. It isn't easy to have the last memory be the ones you have. (unsolicited advice) You might want to consider grief counseling or support group for you and yours. It can be wonderfully helpful and it can be very freeing to see others who have your same feelings
brookyone
Deport Right Wing Nuts
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My condolences to you and all who knew your friend, and his family.
Proud2baLaker
Master of Science
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gmann and streaker...you and yours are in my thoughts.
My father is still recovering. Spends a lot of time in bed. Doesnt seem to have a ton of energy. Im finally at home and am getting to spend some time with him. Hopefully he will start to have more energy. He has been out of it a lot too. Having trouble remembering things sometimes. But he told me today he is ok with that. He wants to take it nice and slow unlike after the last one where he tried to go back to work to soon and get back in the swing of things. I think he thinks that may have helped to cause his complications after the last one.
gmann and streaker...you and yours are in my thoughts.
My father is still recovering. Spends a lot of time in bed. Doesnt seem to have a ton of energy. Im finally at home and am getting to spend some time with him. Hopefully he will start to have more energy. He has been out of it a lot too. Having trouble remembering things sometimes. But he told me today he is ok with that. He wants to take it nice and slow unlike after the last one where he tried to go back to work to soon and get back in the swing of things. I think he thinks that may have helped to cause his complications after the last one.
legal_hit
How far is heaven?
theprofromdover
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Re: A Thread for prayers, good vibes and what have you
Sorry to hear it. My condolences.
Sorry to hear it. My condolences.
leswp1
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Proud2baLaker
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Dads in the ER this morning. Mom had to call the EMS to take him in. Low blood sugar and blood pressure. Was apparently unresponsive. Was supposed to go have his follow up with the neurosurgeon in Indy today.
Updates as I get them...
Dads in the ER this morning. Mom had to call the EMS to take him in. Low blood sugar and blood pressure. Was apparently unresponsive. Was supposed to go have his follow up with the neurosurgeon in Indy today.
Updates as I get them...
Proud2baLaker
Master of Science
Re: A Thread for prayers, good vibes and what have you
So what I'm hearing is that dad's kidneys may not be functioning properly and meds he takes are not being filtered out over time. So basically he is over dosing on meds despite taking them as perscribed. He is on a lot of meds. I will post more info as I get it.
So what I'm hearing is that dad's kidneys may not be functioning properly and meds he takes are not being filtered out over time. So basically he is over dosing on meds despite taking them as perscribed. He is on a lot of meds. I will post more info as I get it.
bostonewe
Short/Round
Proud2baLaker
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Re: A Thread for prayers, good vibes and what have you
Dad is out of the hospital and at home now. But still not normal or fully healthy by any means. Had an MRI that I believe didnt show anything abnormal (something my mom and I both feared due to his very poor short term memory and other issues). His family doctor or whatever now thinks that the problems may have been casued by a pain patch he has been using for some time so he has stopped using it. Its weird though because he has been using it for quite a while and never had this kind of issue I dont think. But perhaps it was just a perfect storm of problems now and that pain patch was what made it go over the edge. I wish I knew. Hopefully he will continue to recover from the brain tumor and start to regain his short term memory and be back to normal or at least close to it. And hopefully his meds help his problems rather than cause more. Continued thanks to everyone for the thoughts and prayers.
Dad is out of the hospital and at home now. But still not normal or fully healthy by any means. Had an MRI that I believe didnt show anything abnormal (something my mom and I both feared due to his very poor short term memory and other issues). His family doctor or whatever now thinks that the problems may have been casued by a pain patch he has been using for some time so he has stopped using it. Its weird though because he has been using it for quite a while and never had this kind of issue I dont think. But perhaps it was just a perfect storm of problems now and that pain patch was what made it go over the edge. I wish I knew. Hopefully he will continue to recover from the brain tumor and start to regain his short term memory and be back to normal or at least close to it. And hopefully his meds help his problems rather than cause more. Continued thanks to everyone for the thoughts and prayers.
leswp1
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Re: A Thread for prayers, good vibes and what have you
That patch stuff can act really weird. My Mo-in-law was fine until she started to lose wt then she was a crazy person from it. The weight change really messed her response to it. Hope it all works out!
That patch stuff can act really weird. My Mo-in-law was fine until she started to lose wt then she was a crazy person from it. The weight change really messed her response to it. Hope it all works out!
MissThundercat
Are the cis okay?
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Many of you know about my mom's run of bad luck when it comes to her health over the past couple years. While my dad and I have tried to do what we can for her, we are getting tired of the "woe is me" attitude and the misery she's trying to breed around here. Question is, how do you deal with the attitude while still trying to care for her?
Many of you know about my mom's run of bad luck when it comes to her health over the past couple years. While my dad and I have tried to do what we can for her, we are getting tired of the "woe is me" attitude and the misery she's trying to breed around here. Question is, how do you deal with the attitude while still trying to care for her?
leswp1
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Be honest. Mum, this string of bad things sux but it is what it is and you need to decide whether you are going to spend the rest of your life bemoaning what happened or what you can't do or you can live to the best of your ability. Or~ "Mum, we have been over this before. You know what I think. I love you and it is too painful to watch/hear you not>>>(pick what ever it is)<<< I can't talk about it anymore. I can help you with what you need done but you need to talk to [medical/counselor person] about that stuff"
You also might want to check with her medical team. You said she had a stroke. Did it affect the part of her brain for mood? Another more pertinent question- if your Mum was always a woe is me person then that won't change. Only you can change how you deal with it or not.
Good Luck Shirtless- I have one of those in my family too and it really can be a trial! When it starts up I ask- why do you talk like that? It usually works.
Be honest. Mum, this string of bad things sux but it is what it is and you need to decide whether you are going to spend the rest of your life bemoaning what happened or what you can't do or you can live to the best of your ability. Or~ "Mum, we have been over this before. You know what I think. I love you and it is too painful to watch/hear you not>>>(pick what ever it is)<<< I can't talk about it anymore. I can help you with what you need done but you need to talk to [medical/counselor person] about that stuff"
You also might want to check with her medical team. You said she had a stroke. Did it affect the part of her brain for mood? Another more pertinent question- if your Mum was always a woe is me person then that won't change. Only you can change how you deal with it or not.
Good Luck Shirtless- I have one of those in my family too and it really can be a trial! When it starts up I ask- why do you talk like that? It usually works.
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