From someone without a dog in this fight: (and I will admit, I don't know the history between these two teams. If your defense is that this was due for games or seasons back, then fine, but I can tell you what I thought of just what happened this weekend)
Bodie completely is at fault for starting this. The RPI player was going to cover him in case a last second shot was taken. The RPI player even turns, sees that the draw was won into the corner, and then slows up. As he is returning his head back towards where he is skating, he gets clocked in the face by Bodie. I will concede that the RPI players that got onto the ice certainly started picking fights, but they jumped over the boards in an attempt to congratulate their goalie for a hard-fought win. Once Bodie cross-checked the RPI player in the grill, it was game on and you should expect that... the can of worms had been opened and you can't expect Pandora to go back in her box.
As for Bennett, I think more than a 2 game suspension is fair, but I am not going to call for his head if that's all that happens. I didn't see anything out of Appert that makes me believe he was doing anything other than trying to get his boys off the ice. Maybe I'm wrong, maybe he was whispering Bertuzzi-like hits into their ears, but to speculate that that's what he did based on the video we've seen is pretty far-fetched.
Lastly, whoever that was a few pages back that said he didn't know who Adam Oates is should be kicked off this forum for good.