The Good Thoughts and Prayers Needed Thread 2

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It's been 2 weeks... don't think I got the Wesco job. bummer. However, Social Incites (job coaching agency) encouraged me to apply at a local Meijer, and they will contact said Meijer in hopes of setting up an interview for me.

Sorry to hear that. I just wish that companies would be more mindful of how stressful the waiting is on the job applicants, come to decisions more quickly, and communicate with the applicants. We all understand that there’s competition for jobs and as sports fans we understand that you don’t always win, but not even communicating in a the result in some reasonable time frame is unacceptable.

Also, sh-t is getting real for my dad and I. We got a notice from the City of Muskegon today, saying they were going to foreclose on our house, due to nonpayment of property taxes. So we have until March to either pay up or get out. I'm looking at this as a blessing in disguise. A roof leak has caused the ceiling above the stairs to cave in, as well as the ceiling in the downstairs bathroom to cave. And in talking to a contractor from church, it would be cheaper to move out than to repair the extensive damage.

Haven’t been following this situation and I don’t know the background, but very sorry to hear that. Even if it had a leaky roof and caved-in stairs, it was a home. Hope you dad can find a place to live soon.

Some prayers would be appreciated. Lil les heading to the dorm today. After 18 yrs I have to let him fly and the world is not going to revolve around me being a parent every day.

In addition to prayers, pleases accept congratulations on a job that, while not done perfectly, was I’m sure done to the best of your ability. I remember quite vividly looking through tears at that image in the rear view mirror that physically and metaphorically gradually got smaller and more distant. Please remember that interacting with children as adults can be very rewarding, and – if you should be so fortunate – grandparenting is a lot easier than parenting.

 

[leswp1]

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Sorry to hear that. I just wish that companies would be more mindful of how stressful the waiting is on the job applicants, come to decisions more quickly, and communicate with the applicants. We all understand that there’s competition for jobs and as sports fans we understand that you don’t always win, but not even communicating in a the result in some reasonable time frame is unacceptable.


Haven’t been following this situation and I don’t know the background, but very sorry to hear that. Even if it had a leaky roof and caved-in stairs, it was a home. Hope you dad can find a place to live soon.


In addition to prayers, pleases accept congratulations on a job that, while not done perfectly, was I’m sure done to the best of your ability. I remember quite vividly looking through tears at that image in the rear view mirror that physically and metaphorically gradually got smaller and more distant. Please remember that interacting with children as adults can be very rewarding, and – if you should be so fortunate – grandparenting is a lot easier than parenting.

Well, if that happens in the near future I will be unable to grandparent because I will probably be in jail

God is good. Was totally at t a loss of how to handle this except give it to the guy upstairs. Our friends were visiting from out of state and were here last weekend. The bunch of us decided to go to dinner last night before they left. Filled the void for a bit.

It is amazing just how much is different- what to make for dinner, what to shop for, how much laundry (3 less loads), expecting him to come thru the door, etc. He has had household chores since he was old enough to walk. I now have to do a ton of things I had offloaded or at least relied on him to do stuff if I was busy over the yrs- food shop, go to the farm for milk, sort the laundry, feed the birds, pick the beans, etc, etc.

Lots of stuff I don't have to do- the weekly email for his teams (something that took up hours during the week), ferret out info about what was required for school (his school was atrocious at communicating, even with my networking we were always finding out stuff the school was forgetting to tell people about deadlines, etc). I can make something for dinner, plan to use it for another meal and it will not be disappearing because someone ate it for 'snack'. We can plan when to eat without having to deal with when he has to run, cool down and stretch. Sadly, other than the disappearing left overs, I kind of liked the other stuff.

 

[MissThundercat]

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Sorry to hear that. I just wish that companies would be more mindful of how stressful the waiting is on the job applicants, come to decisions more quickly, and communicate with the applicants. We all understand that there’s competition for jobs and as sports fans we understand that you don’t always win, but not even communicating in a the result in some reasonable time frame is unacceptable.


Haven’t been following this situation and I don’t know the background, but very sorry to hear that. Even if it had a leaky roof and caved-in stairs, it was a home. Hope you dad can find a place to live soon.

That's what I liked about the interview process when I first got out of college. The form rejection letters came quickly.

As for the house, we have some ideas on where we want to go. Ideally, I'd like to stay in the city, and move to a different neighborhood.

BUT... our situation doesn't appear to be getting any better. Last night, on the way home from work, my dad accidentally struck a pedestrian with the car while driving. Sent the victim into the windshield, and the victim died this morning. According to my dad, he had the "green light," the pedestrian tried to cross anyway, and the incident occurred. We don't know what will happen at this time. So far, charges have NOT been filed, and if there's a suit, we're boned. I currently draw disability and he works at a gas station for around $8/hour.

 

[MissThundercat]

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As for my dad: the Norton Shores PD is still investigating. They're asking potential witnesses to come forward, they're looking at the minivan, and they ran a BAC analysis on my dad to confirm he wasn't drinking at the time of the crash. No, my dad was not drunk (thank God). We talked to the impound lot today. The earliest we could get our minivan back is Tuesday. And then we would have to get the windshield replaced; apparently, driving around like Ace Ventura: Pet Detective is frowned upon in the state of Michigan.

 

[MissThundercat]

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Update on my dad's situation: he talked to the Norton Shores PD earlier today. We won't be getting our car back for awhile, which means until they finish their investigation, I need to start asking others for rides.

Also, a year has passed since I've had a job of any kind. To say I'm bitter about that is an understatement. I've been trying to get in somewhere, even if it's Wally World/Meijer/Big Box retailer. Social Incites and Michigan Rehab is helping, but I didn't think it would take this long.

And to top it all off, the depression (and multi-car pileup in my brain) isn't helping. It's been a struggle to get out of bed in the morning, my mood rates a 3 out of 10, I'm starting to wonder if Cherie (the one who committed suicide earlier this year) had it right, and I'm believing that hope is nothing more than a liar, a cheat, and a tease. In the words of Hyperbole and a Half writer Allie Brosh:

At first, I'd try to explain that it's not really negativity or sadness anymore, it's more just this detached, meaningless fog where you can't feel anything about anything — even the things you love, even fun things — and you're horribly bored and lonely, but since you've lost your ability to connect with any of the things that would normally make you feel less bored and lonely, you're stuck in the boring, lonely, meaningless void without anything to distract you from how boring, lonely, and meaningless it is.

 

[leswp1]

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Update on my dad's situation: he talked to the Norton Shores PD earlier today. We won't be getting our car back for awhile, which means until they finish their investigation, I need to start asking others for rides.

Also, a year has passed since I've had a job of any kind. To say I'm bitter about that is an understatement. I've been trying to get in somewhere, even if it's Wally World/Meijer/Big Box retailer. Social Incites and Michigan Rehab is helping, but I didn't think it would take this long.

And to top it all off, the depression (and multi-car pileup in my brain) isn't helping. It's been a struggle to get out of bed in the morning, my mood rates a 3 out of 10, I'm starting to wonder if Cherie (the one who committed suicide earlier this year) had it right, and I'm believing that hope is nothing more than a liar, a cheat, and a tease. In the words of Hyperbole and a Half writer Allie Brosh:

Please call your psych provider. This is not OK to do by yourself. You need to call.

 

[ericredaxe]

Please call your psych provider. This is not OK to do by yourself. You need to call.

I'd second that. Please call. Even when it does not seem like it, there is always light at the end of the tunnel.

 

[joecct]

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Third!

Take care of yourself - please.

 

[Spartanforlife4]

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I'll add a fourth. You've reached out before for help, it's ok to do it again.

 

[MissThundercat]

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Please call your psych provider. This is not OK to do by yourself. You need to call.

I'd second that. Please call. Even when it does not seem like it, there is always light at the end of the tunnel.

Third!

Take care of yourself - please.

I'll add a fourth. You've reached out before for help, it's ok to do it again.

I'm trying to get ahold of my counseling office. My medical, my dietitian, and my counselor are all under one roof. The protocol is to call, leave a message, and they'll call back. Well, I called on Friday, tried again on Tuesday, and waited for a response today. Nothing.

Just know that I am not suicidal right now. My mood is still 3 out of a possible 10, so while it's not great, it's not desperation time yet either. As for the act of suicide itself, I agree with Dorothy Parker:

Razors pain you;
Rivers are damp;
Acids stain you;
And drugs cause cramp.
Guns aren’t lawful;
Nooses give;
Gas smells awful;
You might as well live.

 

[vizoroo]

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I'm trying to get ahold of my counseling office. My medical, my dietitian, and my counselor are all under one roof. The protocol is to call, leave a message, and they'll call back. Well, I called on Friday, tried again on Tuesday, and waited for a response today. Nothing.

Just know that I am not suicidal right now. My mood is still 3 out of a possible 10, so while it's not great, it's not desperation time yet either. As for the act of suicide itself, I agree with Dorothy Parker:

Sounds like my good friend's Pain Clinic. Will return call in 24 hours--has happened once in 2 1/2 years after i got to office manager. Become a pest(my job)--is there a medicalassistant, office manager, or anyone else that sounds like they have some authority?

Hope you have better luck today or tomorrow. You have a lot of people pulling for you.

 

[MissThundercat]

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Please call your psych provider. This is not OK to do by yourself. You need to call.

I'd second that. Please call. Even when it does not seem like it, there is always light at the end of the tunnel.

Third!

Take care of yourself - please.

I'll add a fourth. You've reached out before for help, it's ok to do it again.

Sounds like my good friend's Pain Clinic. Will return call in 24 hours--has happened once in 2 1/2 years after i got to office manager. Become a pest(my job)--is there a medicalassistant, office manager, or anyone else that sounds like they have some authority?

Hope you have better luck today or tomorrow. You have a lot of people pulling for you.

I do know that they changed schedulers. The person that used to answer the phone is not there any more, which is a shame, because she was good. She never failed to return a call.

 

[leswp1]

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I do know that they changed schedulers. The person that used to answer the phone is not there any more, which is a shame, because she was good. She never failed to return a call.

Glad you tried. Squeaky wheel gets the grease. OK to call again. Tell them your friends are all urging you to call. You can always say your NP friend was up your but to call

 

[MissThundercat]

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Glad you tried. Squeaky wheel gets the grease. OK to call again. Tell them your friends are all urging you to call. You can always say your NP friend was up your but to call

Since they didn't call today, I'll try again in the morning.

 

[leswp1]

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Since they didn't call today, I'll try again in the morning.

good. Sound like you mean it. DOn't be polite

 

[MissThundercat]

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good. Sound like you mean it. DOn't be polite

If they keep ignoring my phone calls, I'm not hesitant to leave them and go back to my old counselor. Bear in mind I have no issues with the counselor herself, but I do have issues with the office. What kind of office doesn't return phone calls?

In the meantime, I'll just try riding it out. I can run and exercise, I have cuddles with the cats...

 

[MissThundercat]

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For some reason, thinking of sitting inside a blanket fort, listening to Cloud Cult, Motion City Soundtrack, and maybe Florence and the Machine is elevating my mood from a 3 to a 3.5, maybe a 4. That's just the thought of it. Now imagine ACTUALLY sitting inside a blanket fort and listening to music... that would bring it to a 4.5, maybe a 5. Oooooh.

 

[Lady wore Black]

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Bob - I know how you feel. Just keep chugging away at what you are doing. You might think it is a waste of time, but is will be worth it. I was unemployed for 10 months. I had to deal with 4 rejections in one week. That did hurt, but I still kept chugging. Not just beer, but applying anywhere and everywhere. Do not give in. Just keep swimin'. Keep the head afloat! I am here for you if you need anything.

 

[MissThundercat]

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I finally reached a LIVE person at my doctor/counseling office and managed to schedule a counseling appointment for next week Wednesday. I wanted to rip into the behavioral health nurse, but I held my tongue...

Also, I have an interview with Designer Shoe Warehouse Friday at 2:30.

 

[MissThundercat]

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Good news: Sam's Club held open interviews today for a bunch of positions, including lot associate (carts and front end garbage). My old boss clued me into the interviews, and she thought I'd be good for the carts. So after the interview today, which I passed, she (or someone from Sam's Club) will be calling for next steps, including a drug screen and background check.

It's not much, and it starts on a 90 day probationary period, but at least it's 90 days of work, and I can look for other positions elsewhere while working for Sam's Club.