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The Good Thoughts and Prayers Needed Thread 2

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leswp1 said:
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Thank you. We are visiting my brother in law and his family in Baltimore. We went to church with them today. They had a moment to where my in laws went up front to pray him and I cried. Then after then survive, I thanks the minister for praying for my dad and lost it. I'm so scared to lose him but I have to remember that I hopefully get 8+ more months with him. I just hope they're good months...and we get a few more than the doctors think.
 
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Things are new and fresh. Everything seems poignant. It is OK to be mad, sad, happy, angry with the person and the circumstances. At this point try to concentrate on the now. You will work out the 'then' when it comes.
 
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I thought it was about time I sent another update. My dad is doing well, he has completed his cyberknife treatments to remove the tumors in his brain, and they have started to ween him off the steroids which were helping him reduce swelling in his brain from those masses, if that goes well, it will be the first major indication that the cyberknife treatments worked. It will be great if the weening works because my mom says that he's been very mean/irritable lately. chemo is supposed to start the 2nd week of November, which has been pushed back twice now...once by the Dr and once by my dad so his 2nd treatment isn't scheduled during a time that would screw up deer hunting. One of our neighbors is a doctor and has asked to attend my dad's next meeting with the oncologist to ask questions and make sure my dad has all the information that he needs. From what my mom said, the neighbor dr doesn't seem to agree with chemo but I'm not sure what he really thinks the alternative should be? Maybe he just doesn't think my dad's life will be extended enough to be worth the discomfort caused by chemo? I hate the thought of my dad accepting whatever he has left without further treatment but I appreciate the neighbor being involved to ask questions us laypeople may not think of or understand well enough to formulate questions.
 
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Shirtless Guy said:
I thought it was about time I sent another update. My dad is doing well, he has completed his cyberknife treatments to remove the tumors in his brain, and they have started to ween him off the steroids which were helping him reduce swelling in his brain from those masses, if that goes well, it will be the first major indication that the cyberknife treatments worked. It will be great if the weening works because my mom says that he's been very mean/irritable lately. chemo is supposed to start the 2nd week of November, which has been pushed back twice now...once by the Dr and once by my dad so his 2nd treatment isn't scheduled during a time that would screw up deer hunting. One of our neighbors is a doctor and has asked to attend my dad's next meeting with the oncologist to ask questions and make sure my dad has all the information that he needs. From what my mom said, the neighbor dr doesn't seem to agree with chemo but I'm not sure what he really thinks the alternative should be? Maybe he just doesn't think my dad's life will be extended enough to be worth the discomfort caused by chemo? I hate the thought of my dad accepting whatever he has left without further treatment but I appreciate the neighbor being involved to ask questions us laypeople may not think of or understand well enough to formulate questions.
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If the treatment makes the time longer but so miserable they can't do anything is is worth it? I think that is usually why people decline.

Saying a prayer
 
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an update from here. My mom is currently halfway through the really nasty chemo (every other week), then she has 12 weeks of more chemo (once a week), then a few months of radiation (5 days a week). She'll be going through chemo through the holidays, which sucks. She lost her hair this week, so that's been tough all around, but she has a great attitude. No other nasty chemo side effects yet, so that's good.
 
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Although I did not know anyone personally, I have friends who have friends missing or known to have died in the warehouse fire in Oakland. Please keep them in your thoughts as many are really hurting right now.
 
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A coworker of mine... his mom passed away just before Thanksgiving, and if that wasn't enough, his dad just died.
 
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ShirtlessBob said:
A coworker of mine... his mom passed away just before Thanksgiving, and if that wasn't enough, his dad just died.
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Are they quite old? If they are say in their 80s this doesn't surprise me. When my Dad passed away at 86 we were on stand-by with my Mom for the first few months, but we should have known she'll bury us all. She's 91 now and is the unsinkable Molly Brown.
 
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Kepler said:
Are they quite old? If they are say in their 80s this doesn't surprise me. When my Dad passed away at 86 we were on stand-by with my Mom for the first few months, but we should have known she'll bury us all. She's 91 now and is the unsinkable Molly Brown.
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I was unsure as to his mother's age, but he did say his dad was in and out of the hospital, then transferred to Hospice just before the end. But still... losing both parents is hard enough, but during the holiday season? Anything I tell him will come out as "other than that, Mrs. Lincoln, how was the show?"
 
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GREAT News to share, at least for me: after looking for more than 10 years to find a full time job, and only being able to find part time retail work... today I was hired in as a production assistant at Tyson Foods in Zeeland. Yes, it's meat packing. No, it's not glamorous by any means. But at least as of today, I now have a full time job, and the pay for me is like hitting the lottery. I, in essence, received a $3/hour pay bump and at least 20 more hours each work week.

Now... I can start looking for my own place.
Now... I can start paying off my debts.
Now... I can start putting money away for my own car.
Now... I can start the process of leaving my dad behind and becoming my own person.
 
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Great news! Holland area is nice too if you're looking to move closer from where you are now.
 
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But, not all good news. As I've mentioned before, my dad fell behind on the property taxes, and was not able to pay for another year to keep us in our current home. The city foreclosed on him, and last week, he was sent a letter informing him that he (and all other occupants) had until March 8 to get out. If we're not out by March 8, they will start the eviction process.

So, now with this new job, I am basically scrambling to find my dad and I another place to live in a very short amount of time. At least, with this new job, I will have the cash to take over the house and be a homeowner.

So, any encouragement you can offer would be appreciated.
 
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ShirtlessBob said:
But, not all good news. As I've mentioned before, my dad fell behind on the property taxes, and was not able to pay for another year to keep us in our current home. The city foreclosed on him, and last week, he was sent a letter informing him that he (and all other occupants) had until March 8 to get out. If we're not out by March 8, they will start the eviction process.

So, now with this new job, I am basically scrambling to find my dad and I another place to live in a very short amount of time. At least, with this new job, I will have the cash to take over the house and be a homeowner.

So, any encouragement you can offer would be appreciated.
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Stop scrambling for your dad and just look for yourself. You can love him all you want but trying to rescue him will drown you both. Do you still have your support people that were working with you before? If so I would recommend calling them and asking them to help you with a plan. That is what they are there for.

Eviction takes time. See if you can find someone who knows how long that would be. Most of the time eviction does not occur for some time.

Is there someone you can room with or sublet from? What ever you do I hope you sincerely consider not doing it with your dad. Anything you do will be under your name and if he decides to be helpless or screw things up it will be you that has the consequence. If I recall he already rec'd $ from his church to help with the taxes. He seems to be playing professional victim. You need help to not be a professional rescuer. (end of unsolicited advice)
 
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