Re: The Good Thoughts and Prayers Needed Thread 2
Wednesday, about 9:30 AM, my supervisor straight up dead named me.
Thursday, 9 AM, I go to him and ask him to stop it. Politely. His response? "It's in the system, so..." I was either livid or on the edge of tears, so resolved to go to HR later in the day.
Thursday, around 2:30 PM, I had another opportunity to talk to him, so tried a different approach. Told him to imagine we switched positions. His name is Andy (Andrew), so told him to imagine he came out as Andrea. Came out, started hormones, and came to me, asking I call her Andrea. I said "okay," but as time passed, I kept saying "Andrew" because it was "in the system." Paused for a moment, and then asked "wouldn't that make you feel uncomfortable?" I saw him sigh, lower his head, and said something like "I understand now," and resolved to do better in the future.
I am proud of myself for taking a softer approach, and my prayer is that this works long-term. If at all possible, I don't want to drag HR into it, I don't want to go nuclear, and I really don't want to try the passive-aggressive approach either.
Wednesday, about 9:30 AM, my supervisor straight up dead named me.
Thursday, 9 AM, I go to him and ask him to stop it. Politely. His response? "It's in the system, so..." I was either livid or on the edge of tears, so resolved to go to HR later in the day.
Thursday, around 2:30 PM, I had another opportunity to talk to him, so tried a different approach. Told him to imagine we switched positions. His name is Andy (Andrew), so told him to imagine he came out as Andrea. Came out, started hormones, and came to me, asking I call her Andrea. I said "okay," but as time passed, I kept saying "Andrew" because it was "in the system." Paused for a moment, and then asked "wouldn't that make you feel uncomfortable?" I saw him sigh, lower his head, and said something like "I understand now," and resolved to do better in the future.
I am proud of myself for taking a softer approach, and my prayer is that this works long-term. If at all possible, I don't want to drag HR into it, I don't want to go nuclear, and I really don't want to try the passive-aggressive approach either.
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