A Thread for prayers, good vibes and what have you

[MarkEagleUSA]

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And its official dad went home yesterday !!!

Great news!

[vizoroo]

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Hadn't visited this thread before, but it sounds like good news for your Dad. Laker, hope always continues to be good news for your family.

My roomate had a kidney removed on Apr. 19. And although the recovery is progressing, he has diabetes and high blood pressure which are not helping. Plus a benign tumor, at last test, on the nerve in the hip opposite the kidney that was removed. Surgeon says that cancer had not spread, but you always still worry.

[leswp1]

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Hadn't visited this thread before, but it sounds like good news for your Dad. Laker, hope always continues to be good news for your family.

My roomate had a kidney removed on Apr. 19. And although the recovery is progressing, he has diabetes and high blood pressure which are not helping. Plus a benign tumor, at last test, on the nerve in the hip opposite the kidney that was removed. Surgeon says that cancer had not spread, but you always still worry.

Prayers headed his way vizaroo.

[gmann]

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A good friend of mine and his famly could use some prayers.

In December, my friend was diagnosed with Large B Cell Non-Hodgkins Lymphona. Diagnosed as a stage 4 cancer, the main culprit came from the left hip area where he was experiencing severe pain. He began chemo treatments. After completing 5 treatments 3 weeks apart he was doing very well. He was however still experiencing pain in his left hip. Treament required radiation, 25 treaments every day but weekends. Radiation was much harder on him. He experienced many side affects, but through it all remained very positive and determined to overcome any obstacle in his way. Following the last treatments of radiation, he seemed to be responding well. He is facing another set back as yesterday doctors discovered the cancer had spread into his spinal fluid and the lining his brain.

My friend has been fighting the fight. I spent some time with him yesterday and I left feeling pretty good about things. However, I woke up this morning to a text from his wife. "**** was airlifted to Rochester in very critical condition with an infection. It is touch and go. We need your prayers."

If you are so inclined, please say a prayer for my friend.

[streaker]

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My thoughts and prayers go out to all of you that are either experiencing a hardship or illness for yourself or for your family.

I just lost my 70 year old father in law on the 11th. He was being treated for colon cancer and had surgery in January to remove a section. He underwent radiation and was undergoing chemotherapy. To complicate matters, he was extremely overweight (6'0" 245) diabetic, had HBP and as previously treated for cancer spots on his bladder. Toss in a blown out knee that he wouldn't get fixed, too. He was in constant pain.

He got through the surgery in good order and the radiation- which was delicate since the disease was in the colo-rectal area. Our family took turns taking him to treatment and doctors. His biggest enemy, though, was himself. He refused to change his diet, which in the end, is what killed him. He suffered the usual side affects from chemo, but his diet made matters worse.

The doctors had warned him about sodium intake and how dangerous it was interacting with his chemotherapy. He would develop tongue and facial swelling. Finally, on the 11th, with 4 months of treatment left, and a decent chance at beating cancer, he ate too much sodium rich food, suffered anaphylactic shock and refused to immediately go to the hospital. He finally went, but too late and died from asphyxiation resulting from his air passages being closed off. The doctors couldn't even save him with a tracheotomy... it was too late.

He didn't want to suffer and die with cancer. Two years ago he watched his brother die from ALS after a three year battle. So, God does work, albeit not always in the timing and manner we want. But my father in law helped- and put God to the test one too many times. It was grotesque seeing him after he passed and very hard on my wife and mom in law. The good news is, we are a family of salvation and faith and so was he. We know he is not suffering now, and we'll join him some day.

So, the lesson is- help your family, learn all you can about treatments, interactions and so forth. Don't fight your health care-take as good of your own care as you can and don't deny treatment. It will save a ton of heartache, grief and guilt for your family.

As for me, I am left to cleaning up his financial house (which I thankfully convinced him to place into Trust status months before) and his property (literally) as well as act as therapist for my family-listening to the woulda coulda, shoulda's and letting my family express their anger and frustration over a needless and tragic event.

[leswp1]

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My friend has been fighting the fight. I spent some time with him yesterday and I left feeling pretty good about things. However, I woke up this morning to a text from his wife. "**** was airlifted to Rochester in very critical condition with an infection. It is touch and go. We need your prayers."

If you are so inclined, please say a prayer for my friend.

Prayers that way gmann.

streaker- what you describe is a horribly frustrating journey for your family. My prayers are with you.

I deal with a lot of these types of patients and also had a Christian Scientist for a grandmother (at least I understood faith as a motivation!) Altho it defies logic, there are some people that rebel against following treatment plans even if they know it will be fatal. A lot of the time people will say they are in denial but in my experience it is more about control than denial. They are cognizant in what they are doing. They would rather take the consequence, even if it is death, than sacrifice what they feel is the control over their life. It is every person's right to make their own decision, but that decision is a selfish one when it leaves the family holding the mess. It leaves lasting memories of bitterness, frustration and anger for memories rather than the good memories they would rather have. When they were sick people feel they should not say anything because the person is sick. Worse is that there is no one to direct the anger at when the person is gone.

Prayers for all of you. It isn't easy to have the last memory be the ones you have. (unsolicited advice) You might want to consider grief counseling or support group for you and yours. It can be wonderfully helpful and it can be very freeing to see others who have your same feelings

[gmann]

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My friend passed away early this afternoon. It has been a tough day.

[brookyone]

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My friend passed away early this afternoon. It has been a tough day.

My condolences to you and all who knew your friend, and his family.

[Proud2baLaker]

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gmann and streaker...you and yours are in my thoughts.

My father is still recovering. Spends a lot of time in bed. Doesnt seem to have a ton of energy. Im finally at home and am getting to spend some time with him. Hopefully he will start to have more energy. He has been out of it a lot too. Having trouble remembering things sometimes. But he told me today he is ok with that. He wants to take it nice and slow unlike after the last one where he tried to go back to work to soon and get back in the swing of things. I think he thinks that may have helped to cause his complications after the last one.

[legal_hit]

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My friend passed away early this afternoon. It has been a tough day.

I am so sorry to hear that.

[theprofromdover]

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My friend passed away early this afternoon. It has been a tough day.

Sorry to hear it. My condolences.

[leswp1]

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My friend passed away early this afternoon. It has been a tough day.

So sorry to hear

[Proud2baLaker]

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Dads in the ER this morning. Mom had to call the EMS to take him in. Low blood sugar and blood pressure. Was apparently unresponsive. Was supposed to go have his follow up with the neurosurgeon in Indy today.

Updates as I get them...

[Proud2baLaker]

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Dads in the ER this morning. Mom had to call the EMS to take him in. Low blood sugar and blood pressure. Was apparently unresponsive. Was supposed to go have his follow up with the neurosurgeon in Indy today.

Updates as I get them...

So what I'm hearing is that dad's kidneys may not be functioning properly and meds he takes are not being filtered out over time. So basically he is over dosing on meds despite taking them as perscribed. He is on a lot of meds. I will post more info as I get it.

[bostonewe]

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So what I'm hearing is that dad's kidneys may not be functioning properly and meds he takes are not being filtered out over time. So basically he is over dosing on meds despite taking them as perscribed. He is on a lot of meds. I will post more info as I get it.