A Thread for prayers, good vibes and what have you

[MountieBoyOz]

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I'll be praying for you, Proud.

[MissThundercat]

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Dad was admitted to the hospital tonight for a massive headache. They gave him some strong stuff (not sure what) in the ER to try to help with it and give him quite a bit (nurse said it was enough to make everyone in the ER feel good) but he has such a high tolerance from being on so many meds over the years that it did nothing. They decided to admit him over night and put him on a morphine drip so that he could hopefully have some relief and get some sleep. But no one could start a line on him. Three different people tried but no luck so they called and had the ansthesiologist come in to do it. He should only be in for the night though we hope. He had an MRI earlier this month but he says he hasnt heard anything back yet...or he isnt telling us what he heard.

Sending good thoughts your way!

[Proud2baLaker]

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Dad came home on Tuesday. He is better compared to Monday. But its just another sign of all the problems stemming from the 2 brain tumors and other health issues. His memory is very poor (mostly the short term) and he just always seems out of it. I feel bad for my mom a lot since she has to basically take care of him while still working her job . Dad can still take care of himself for the most part but mom does need to be around to help him take the right meds at the right time and make sure he is eating right (hes also diabetic). My 34 year old brother still lives at home but he is worthless (he doesnt help pay any rent or pay for utilities and is deep in student loan debt), is rarely at home and never offers any help. Thankfully my sister still lives within 30 mintues (Im 7 hours away) and could respond in case of emergency. My mom handles things ok but she is still an active person and likes to be able to go on trips with her quilt club on the weekends every now and then and occasionally has to leave town for buisness. She says my dad seems to get through those times ok but we both still worry when she isnt around. Its tough watching someone lose a more and more of who they are over the years, especially when you dont get to see them often. So as others have said I try to enjoy the time I am able to spend with my dad.

[leswp1]

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THe whole situation stinks! It might be the insurance would provide for respite care if your Mum needs to travel- someone comes in to make sure the meds ate taken, etc.

[Proud2baLaker]

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THe whole situation stinks! It might be the insurance would provide for respite care if your Mum needs to travel- someone comes in to make sure the meds ate taken, etc.

Thankfully I dont think its quite to that point...yet. She does a good job of prepping things before she leaves and makes sure he has reminders. Its seems like if he doesnt have anything to do he gets worse. My dad likes to be active but cant concentrate on things for too long. In the summer he golfs almost everyday and does some light yard work so when I see him in the summer he seems better. In the winter he cant be as active so he seems worse off. He used to be a heck of a painter (did some great work with watercolors...most of which are hanging in our house or in relatives homes) but now he cant focus on that at all which is a shame. His brother used to do wood working (he passed last fall) and he would bring stuff to my dad to have him sand and stain it (my uncle sucked at that step but my dad was great at it). Mom tries to find tasks like that for him when she can and he seems to enjoy it. Might need to see if we can find more like that.

[dubbie31]

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Update on Rozzi's cancer situation.

He started Chemo yesterday. It is being administered in pill form. Unsure how long this treatment will last. He is in good spirits though.

Also, with the charity work we have been doing, we believe it was someone from the Man United fanbase who did this...but

"Coppers turned up at Rozzi's today because some SICK B****** phoned Crimestoppers and claimed he was conning people about his cancer.

As if Christmas ain't going be hard enough for him, him and his mrs have had the indignity of proving the poor lad is ill to the police who turned up mob handed.

Whoever did this is one sad, pathetic @@##$ $%(%(%$% %($#%( of person. God forbid he/she ever have to go through anything like this in their life the twisted b******." -email from Rozzi's Brother.

The police are investigating this as well. As you can imagine it shook the family up, but they are doing better.

If you would like more info on Rozzi or how to help out, visit the website in my sig line.

We have raised close to $5000 for his family to cover expenses.

[MountieBoyOz]

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Update on the Mrs.

We went to her general Dr. and found out the ER doc lied about the test he ran. The ER doc said he ran a quantitative test, but ran the less accurate qualitative test. Her regular physician wasn't happy. He ordered another blood test just to make sure she's fine or got anything left from the miscarriage. He also is planning on kickstarting her system with a month's worth of birth control.

However, I need some advice. She found out her cousin is having a child and she became really depressed. Any time someone she knows gets pregnant, she just shuts down for the day or two. What scared me is that I asked if she needed anything, and she retorted "a bullet in the head" right in front of the little one. The remark shook her daughter. She's been so combatitive with the notion of seeing anyone for help. How do I ask her to go see someone? Do I be tough because I'm just full of bluster? Do I be sweet and sensitive? I really need some guidance. Thanks.

[leswp1]

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Update on the Mrs.

We went to her general Dr. and found out the ER doc lied about the test he ran. The ER doc said he ran a quantitative test, but ran the less accurate qualitative test. Her regular physician wasn't happy. He ordered another blood test just to make sure she's fine or got anything left from the miscarriage. He also is planning on kickstarting her system with a month's worth of birth control.

However, I need some advice. She found out her cousin is having a child and she became really depressed. Any time someone she knows gets pregnant, she just shuts down for the day or two. What scared me is that I asked if she needed anything, and she retorted "a bullet in the head" right in front of the little one. The remark shook her daughter. She's been so combatitive with the notion of seeing anyone for help. How do I ask her to go see someone? Do I be tough because I'm just full of bluster? Do I be sweet and sensitive? I really need some guidance. Thanks.

Just my 2 cents. I may be reading things in where they are not but.... I couldn't do the sweet stuff. I think you sit her down and say what you just said here. She freaked her kid out and you. The 2 of you are a couple. The 3 of you are a family. She is not the only one not getting pregnant or having lost a child if the preg failed. You have those losses and griefs too.

This level of stress is counterproductive to fertility. Drama is not OK. If she doesn't mean it she needs to figure out a healthy way to express herself. If she does mean it she needs help. If this is what she is like before hormones hit then yikes to what she is like after they hit if she does get pregnant. Ask the Doc for help. Let him/her know what is happening. Wild mood swings can't be OK in your relationship even if she thinks they should be tolerated. This isn't just about her. If you do all the adjusting then the relationship is one sided. If you think she should do counseling You say what you have said here. She is scaring you. Even if she doesn't mean it you would feel better if you guys got some help dealing with the stress.

[leswp1]

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PS- one of the best lines I have ever heard directed at someone I know was "so this isn't working. It can't stay this way. You know that. What is your plan/what are you going to do about it?"

[Timothy A]

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How do I ask her to go see someone? Do I be tough because I'm just full of bluster? Do I be sweet and sensitive? I really need some guidance. Thanks.

I think it depends on what has worked for you in the past. If getting tough has worked in touchy situations, do that. If being sweet has worked, be sweet. But I also fully recognize hormones and the power of depression are tricky to work around. I have female family members who are battling depression. It may just take some time (weeks) to come to grips with the events. You may not want to force things too quickly. Maybe she has a few close girlfriends who could help get through.

If you are religious (or not), turn to God. Sometimes God's plan doesn't fit into what plans we have. It's tough to accept that. My monther in law, the wonderful matriarch of her family, the glue that held everything together, had a stroke 10 months ago, and now she's in a home with dimentia and it sucks. To me it seems like such a waste of her life just being in that room, not knowing much about anything anymore. But this is God's plan, and we keep praying for her to get better. Ask God for strength, guidance and patience. God wants us to bring every need and want to him in prayer.

[MountieBoyOz]

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Thanks for all of your help. We got some news and things are normal and no aftereffects from the miscarriage remain. (Well... physically) The doctor is prescribing stuff to kick start her cycle and we can get back to trying. If we aren't successful, he's going to recommend us to a fertility clinic for help. She seems to be in better spirits about things because there's a plan of attack. I think she was afraid of the unknown.

I did bring up that she should talk to someone and she's starting to open up to it. I told her it's been hard on me as well, and she understands.

Tim A, I'm also going to try your advice.

[Timothy A]

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Tim A, I'm also going to try your advice.

I don't know which advise you are going to try, but if it's the praying one, just remember God answers all your prayers, it's just sometimes he says "no/not yet" to your prayer. You have to accept the answer, but you can still pray for that again, again and again. God never tires of your prayers of help. Also give God thanks for all the "good" things in your life. No matter what your situation, there's always plenty to be thankful for. Pray for the doctors as well, that they can use their God given talents for the benefit your situation.

Philipians Ch 4 V 6
"Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God."

1 Thessalonians 5
16 Rejoice always, 17 pray continually, 18 give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.

Thanks for reading and God Bless.

[leswp1]

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Needing a few prayers for myself. Work is insane right now. Scaring me it is so screwed up. Nothing I can control and really effecting how I can do my job. It is physically impossible for me to do what I need to do. All my devotions keep saying to let go and let God but l letting go could compromise the care I give. Can't do that. Trying to let go of the stress it produces and just do what I can do without much success.

[dubbie31]

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Hey All,

A close friend of my Fiancee's and I has just been diagnosed with Breast Cancer. She is in excellent health and it is a stage 2 cancer. She should be ok...but please keep her in your prayers.

Her name is Sally, she has been a customer at my work for years, and she helped my fiancee get a job out of school.

[MissThundercat]

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Needing a few prayers for myself. Work is insane right now. Scaring me it is so screwed up. Nothing I can control and really effecting how I can do my job. It is physically impossible for me to do what I need to do. All my devotions keep saying to let go and let God but l letting go could compromise the care I give. Can't do that. Trying to let go of the stress it produces and just do what I can do without much success.

Hey All,

A close friend of my Fiancee's and I has just been diagnosed with Breast Cancer. She is in excellent health and it is a stage 2 cancer. She should be ok...but please keep her in your prayers.

Her name is Sally, she has been a customer at my work for years, and she helped my fiancee get a job out of school.

Prayers for you both.

And a note of good news tonight: the last two quarters in school, I've been marked down for everything including lack of time management and sanitation. Got my first evaluation back from my baking instructor, and while it is true I need to work on time management, I wasn't marked down for having a dirty station! Things are looking up!