A Thread for prayers, good vibes and what have you

[leswp1]

Re: A Thread for prayers, good vibes and what have you

Thinking of you MEUSA. This stuff can be convoluted. Sounds as if your aunt is going to have an amazing amt of support.

My Auntie did this for my Aunt. The finances were labor intensive, esp after my Aunt died, as things keep coming. Best advice she said she got was to use a file system for everything and keep a master index of everything she rec'd/applied for/filled in forms for as different agencies frequently asked for the same things again and again.

[MarkEagleUSA]

Re: A Thread for prayers, good vibes and what have you

If you have any questions about this, feel free to ask, either through my board email or through the board itself.

Thanks Clown. I know you went through this and appreciate your offer.

I experienced hospice first hand 33 years ago when my grandfather passed from terminal cancer. He was in a hospice facility for just over 3 weeks, but it was made so much easier for him and the family by the great folks at hospice.

The only way I can get my aunt into a hospice facility is if the doctor signs off stating she has less than 6 months to live (that's the threshold for Medicare coverage as well). The care they're going to provide at her current facility is covered 100%.

I'm essentially alone in this matter as there are no other immediate relatives. Emotionally it's been very difficult for me since it's really not in my comfort zone. My wife has been a huge help with her medical knowledge from being an EMT... she understands what these people are describing way better than me.

Again, I appreciate the offer.

[St. Clown]

Re: A Thread for prayers, good vibes and what have you

I never dreamed I'd be asking complete strangers on a hockey forum for this, but I guess everyone needs thoughts and prayers at some point.

The short story is I have an elderly aunt that is the last remaining relative on my dad's side of the family. Since my dad passed 46 yrs ago, my aunt has been like a second mother to me. For the past 5 years she has been in an assisted living facility for people with Alheimer's. As her only remaining next of kin, I have POA over her estate and am responsible for her care.

In the past year, her health has steadily declined. Last week, she spent a night at the hospital after collapsing, and they could find nothing medically wrong with her. Their best guess is just the nasty progression of the disease. To make matters worse, for about the past 6 months, she has not been communicating verbally at all... just moans and groans. Now she is unable to ambulate on her own as well.

The facility is recommending additional assistance, whether it be a live-in caregiver, a skilled nursing facility, or perhaps even hospice care. We are meeting with the hospice people tomorrow after they do an evaluation. To say this has put a damper on my already down mood for the holidays is an understatement.

In the past 2 days I have found myself praying that the good Lord does right by her so that she doesn't continue to suffer. That has placed another level of guilt on my shoulders but I feel it's in her best interest as she is simply existing at this point.

If you fine folks could manage to include us in your prayers during this difficult time, it would be greatly appreciated.

I seldom venture into this thread, so I had no idea that your situation was similar to what I just experienced. As you likely know by now, hospice care is 100% covered by Medicare, and from my family's experience hospice truly does relieve you of certain limited concerns and a greater number of burdens, if that makes sense. Hospice care is not the short-term situation it once was, my mom was in hospice care from roughly mid-February until her passing on 11/24. The timeline of the disease is different for everyone, and presents itself differently in many ways. If you have any questions about this, feel free to ask, either through my board email or through the board itself.

Best wishes to you during this time.

[MarkEagleUSA]

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The facility is recommending additional assistance, whether it be a live-in caregiver, a skilled nursing facility, or perhaps even hospice care. We are meeting with the hospice people tomorrow after they do an evaluation. To say this has put a damper on my already down mood for the holidays is an understatement.

Last week's meeting with the hospice people was postponed and we met Tuesday morning.

While there are a few details to be ironed out, the plan for now is to move my aunt into a shared room (saving a substantial amount of money). Hospice will be providing a caretaker for at least 2 hrs per day, 5 days per week. There's some wiggle room there and they could end up providing 7 days/week. We will also be getting her a caretaker for 8 hrs/day to work around the hospice care so that she essentially has someone with her from wake-up through bed time. Any money saved from the move to a shared room gets eaten up by the caretaker (and then some; also not covered by medicare). The hospice services will be covered 100%.

Now that we've addressed the immediate daily care issues, I still have a lot of work to do regarding her finances. She will be out of money within the next 6-8 months. I've been told her income (hefty pension and SS) precludes her from normal state aid but we were able to get her on a waiting list for a program that is supposed to provide medical services while we continue to pay for her housing/living arrangements (unfortunately that's a 7-12 month wait after her assets fall below a certain threshold that we're 2 or 3 months away from). The social workers from hospice are going to be contacting me in the next few days to schedule a meeting where they can help steer me in the right direction for other financial options.

The hospice evaluation termed her as "end stage dementia" so there is an unspoken concensus that she probably won't make next Christmas. She is now wheelchair-bound, unable to feed herself, and needs to be helped in all physical activities. She is responding to questions with short, often one-word replies but will not initiate any conversation (such as asking to go to the bathroom).

I'm feeling a little better today about her physical/mental situation, but the financial side is still weighing heavily on me. My first concern is her comfort, dignity, and quality of life since she's got so little of any of those that left

[leswp1]

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Thanks folks... it is appreciated.

And as if this weren't a big enough cross to bear, my wife was laid off from her job last night. Supposed to only be a 10-12 week temporary furlough, but I'm not buying it.

Poop.

[MarkEagleUSA]

Re: A Thread for prayers, good vibes and what have you

Thanks folks... it is appreciated.

And as if this weren't a big enough cross to bear, my wife was laid off from her job last night. Supposed to only be a 10-12 week temporary furlough, but I'm not buying it.

[Suze]

Re: A Thread for prayers, good vibes and what have you

I never dreamed I'd be asking complete strangers on a hockey forum for this, but I guess everyone needs thoughts and prayers at some point.

The short story is I have an elderly aunt that is the last remaining relative on my dad's side of the family. Since my dad passed 46 yrs ago, my aunt has been like a second mother to me. For the past 5 years she has been in an assisted living facility for people with Alheimer's. As her only remaining next of kin, I have POA over her estate and am responsible for her care.

In the past year, her health has steadily declined. Last week, she spent a night at the hospital after collapsing, and they could find nothing medically wrong with her. Their best guess is just the nasty progression of the disease. To make matters worse, for about the past 6 months, she has not been communicating verbally at all... just moans and groans. Now she is unable to ambulate on her own as well.

The facility is recommending additional assistance, whether it be a live-in caregiver, a skilled nursing facility, or perhaps even hospice care. We are meeting with the hospice people tomorrow after they do an evaluation. To say this has put a damper on my already down mood for the holidays is an understatement.

In the past 2 days I have found myself praying that the good Lord does right by her so that she doesn't continue to suffer. That has placed another level of guilt on my shoulders but I feel it's in her best interest as she is simply existing at this point.

If you fine folks could manage to include us in your prayers during this difficult time, it would be greatly appreciated.

Glad I happened in on this thread. Prayers being said for your family! Please update us when you can.

[leswp1]

Re: A Thread for prayers, good vibes and what have you

Good vibes to you.

Just wanted to mention my wife is recovering and her surgery went well. The drilling went swimmingly and there were no blockages of any kind.

w0000t!!

[MountieBoyOz]

Re: A Thread for prayers, good vibes and what have you

I never dreamed I'd be asking complete strangers on a hockey forum for this, but I guess everyone needs thoughts and prayers at some point.

The short story is I have an elderly aunt that is the last remaining relative on my dad's side of the family. Since my dad passed 46 yrs ago, my aunt has been like a second mother to me. For the past 5 years she has been in an assisted living facility for people with Alheimer's. As her only remaining next of kin, I have POA over her estate and am responsible for her care.

In the past year, her health has steadily declined. Last week, she spent a night at the hospital after collapsing, and they could find nothing medically wrong with her. Their best guess is just the nasty progression of the disease. To make matters worse, for about the past 6 months, she has not been communicating verbally at all... just moans and groans. Now she is unable to ambulate on her own as well.

The facility is recommending additional assistance, whether it be a live-in caregiver, a skilled nursing facility, or perhaps even hospice care. We are meeting with the hospice people tomorrow after they do an evaluation. To say this has put a damper on my already down mood for the holidays is an understatement.

In the past 2 days I have found myself praying that the good Lord does right by her so that she doesn't continue to suffer. That has placed another level of guilt on my shoulders but I feel it's in her best interest as she is simply existing at this point.

If you fine folks could manage to include us in your prayers during this difficult time, it would be greatly appreciated.

Good vibes to you.

Just wanted to mention my wife is recovering and her surgery went well. The drilling went swimmingly and there were no blockages of any kind.

[Siouxfaninseattle]

Re: A Thread for prayers, good vibes and what have you

I never dreamed I'd be asking complete strangers on a hockey forum for this, but I guess everyone needs thoughts and prayers at some point.

The short story is I have an elderly aunt that is the last remaining relative on my dad's side of the family. Since my dad passed 46 yrs ago, my aunt has been like a second mother to me. For the past 5 years she has been in an assisted living facility for people with Alheimer's. As her only remaining next of kin, I have POA over her estate and am responsible for her care.

In the past year, her health has steadily declined. Last week, she spent a night at the hospital after collapsing, and they could find nothing medically wrong with her. Their best guess is just the nasty progression of the disease. To make matters worse, for about the past 6 months, she has not been communicating verbally at all... just moans and groans. Now she is unable to ambulate on her own as well.

The facility is recommending additional assistance, whether it be a live-in caregiver, a skilled nursing facility, or perhaps even hospice care. We are meeting with the hospice people tomorrow after they do an evaluation. To say this has put a damper on my already down mood for the holidays is an understatement.

In the past 2 days I have found myself praying that the good Lord does right by her so that she doesn't continue to suffer. That has placed another level of guilt on my shoulders but I feel it's in her best interest as she is simply existing at this point.

If you fine folks could manage to include us in your prayers during this difficult time, it would be greatly appreciated.

Thoughts and prayers for you both.

[leswp1]

Re: A Thread for prayers, good vibes and what have you

I never dreamed I'd be asking complete strangers on a hockey forum for this, but I guess everyone needs thoughts and prayers at some point.

The short story is I have an elderly aunt that is the last remaining relative on my dad's side of the family. Since my dad passed 46 yrs ago, my aunt has been like a second mother to me. For the past 5 years she has been in an assisted living facility for people with Alheimer's. As her only remaining next of kin, I have POA over her estate and am responsible for her care.

In the past year, her health has steadily declined. Last week, she spent a night at the hospital after collapsing, and they could find nothing medically wrong with her. Their best guess is just the nasty progression of the disease. To make matters worse, for about the past 6 months, she has not been communicating verbally at all... just moans and groans. Now she is unable to ambulate on her own as well.

The facility is recommending additional assistance, whether it be a live-in caregiver, a skilled nursing facility, or perhaps even hospice care. We are meeting with the hospice people tomorrow after they do an evaluation. To say this has put a damper on my already down mood for the holidays is an understatement.

In the past 2 days I have found myself praying that the good Lord does right by her so that she doesn't continue to suffer. That has placed another level of guilt on my shoulders but I feel it's in her best interest as she is simply existing at this point.

If you fine folks could manage to include us in your prayers during this difficult time, it would be greatly appreciated.

That is so hard. Saying a prayer for you both. It doesn't sound as if she is doing well at all. You know who she was and are better equipped than anyone to know what she would have wanted. If she is falling for no reason on top of being non-verbal, it won't be long before other functions fail- the ability to eat, for one. Praying the good Lord does right by her is the most merciful and unselfish thing you could do.

Ck your rep/email.

[manurespreader]

Re: A Thread for prayers, good vibes and what have you

I never dreamed I'd be asking complete strangers on a hockey forum for this, but I guess everyone needs thoughts and prayers at some point.

The short story is I have an elderly aunt that is the last remaining relative on my dad's side of the family. Since my dad passed 46 yrs ago, my aunt has been like a second mother to me. For the past 5 years she has been in an assisted living facility for people with Alheimer's. As her only remaining next of kin, I have POA over her estate and am responsible for her care.

In the past year, her health has steadily declined. Last week, she spent a night at the hospital after collapsing, and they could find nothing medically wrong with her. Their best guess is just the nasty progression of the disease. To make matters worse, for about the past 6 months, she has not been communicating verbally at all... just moans and groans. Now she is unable to ambulate on her own as well.

The facility is recommending additional assistance, whether it be a live-in caregiver, a skilled nursing facility, or perhaps even hospice care. We are meeting with the hospice people tomorrow after they do an evaluation. To say this has put a damper on my already down mood for the holidays is an understatement.

In the past 2 days I have found myself praying that the good Lord does right by her so that she doesn't continue to suffer. That has placed another level of guilt on my shoulders but I feel it's in her best interest as she is simply existing at this point.

If you fine folks could manage to include us in your prayers during this difficult time, it would be greatly appreciated.

Consider it done. I'm in a similar situation but not as far down the road.

[MarkEagleUSA]

Re: A Thread for prayers, good vibes and what have you

I never dreamed I'd be asking complete strangers on a hockey forum for this, but I guess everyone needs thoughts and prayers at some point.

The short story is I have an elderly aunt that is the last remaining relative on my dad's side of the family. Since my dad passed 46 yrs ago, my aunt has been like a second mother to me. For the past 5 years she has been in an assisted living facility for people with Alheimer's. As her only remaining next of kin, I have POA over her estate and am responsible for her care.

In the past year, her health has steadily declined. Last week, she spent a night at the hospital after collapsing, and they could find nothing medically wrong with her. Their best guess is just the nasty progression of the disease. To make matters worse, for about the past 6 months, she has not been communicating verbally at all... just moans and groans. Now she is unable to ambulate on her own as well.

The facility is recommending additional assistance, whether it be a live-in caregiver, a skilled nursing facility, or perhaps even hospice care. We are meeting with the hospice people tomorrow after they do an evaluation. To say this has put a damper on my already down mood for the holidays is an understatement.

In the past 2 days I have found myself praying that the good Lord does right by her so that she doesn't continue to suffer. That has placed another level of guilt on my shoulders but I feel it's in her best interest as she is simply existing at this point.

If you fine folks could manage to include us in your prayers during this difficult time, it would be greatly appreciated.

[leswp1]

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I'd appreciate prayers for a new foster placement we got just over a week ago. We got him as a newborn and we're not sure what his future holds (or even what he's been through to this point), but we want to take the best care of him we can as long as he's under our roof.

God knows and that is all that is needful. Saying a prayer for all

[Bob Gray]

Re: A Thread for prayers, good vibes and what have you

I'd appreciate prayers for a new foster placement we got just over a week ago. We got him as a newborn and we're not sure what his future holds (or even what he's been through to this point), but we want to take the best care of him we can as long as he's under our roof.