Gender Studies I

[MissThundercat]

Re: Gender Studies I

Today was a better day; she got it and she understood.

Also, I've had to explain to a few kids that "some women have a low voice and some women have a high voice. I have a low voice." They're like "oh. okay." My coworkers have been really quick to help me, because I think they KNOW.

[dxmnkd316]

Re: Gender Studies I

That’s awesome. Glad to hear.

[MissThundercat]

Re: Gender Studies I

That’s awesome. Glad to hear.

And if they know without me saying anything, the better. That being said, reinforcement is better for teaching new behavior than punishment. Good job, thank you, that was awesome, sprinkled in with a few double chocolate crunchy peanut butter mini-muffins... saying the correct pronouns can be learned.

[FadeToBlack&Gold]

Re: Gender Studies I

Today was a better day; she got it and she understood.

Also, I've had to explain to a few kids that "some women have a low voice and some women have a high voice. I have a low voice." They're like "oh. okay." My coworkers have been really quick to help me, because I think they KNOW.

That's great!

One of the things you'll have to try and remember is that most people have never worked with an out trans person before. Not everyone is automatically being malicious if they mis-gender you, and gentle reminders work best for new people making occasional mistakes.

[dxmnkd316]

Re: Gender Studies I

I’ve never worked with a transgender person either. I know it’s a monumental ask, but grace and patience are needed. Most of us just don’t know things or we’re so afraid of screwing up or even asking what’s proper. Most of us don’t mean malice, we’re just dumb.

[The Rube]

Re: Gender Studies I

I’ve never worked with a transgender person either. I know it’s a monumental ask, but grace and patience are needed. Most of us just don’t know things or we’re so afraid of screwing up or even asking what’s proper. Most of us don’t mean malice, we’re just dumb.

This. All of this.

[FadeToBlack&Gold]

Re: Gender Studies I

I’ve never worked with a transgender person either. I know it’s a monumental ask, but grace and patience are needed. Most of us just don’t know things or we’re so afraid of screwing up or even asking what’s proper. Most of us don’t mean malice, we’re just dumb.

I've worked with two trans people to date, so I had my slip-ups early on with the first one since he did the hormonal transition after he'd been working there for a couple of years.

[MissThundercat]

Re: Gender Studies I

I’ve never worked with a transgender person either. I know it’s a monumental ask, but grace and patience are needed. Most of us just don’t know things or we’re so afraid of screwing up or even asking what’s proper. Most of us don’t mean malice, we’re just dumb.

This. All of this.

I've worked with two trans people to date, so I had my slip-ups early on with the first one since he did the hormonal transition after he'd been working there for a couple of years.

One thing I'm going to do is get a pronoun pin and wear it to work. And I'm learning too.

[MissThundercat]

I'm in a really supportive environment at my job. Told the Center Coordinator about my stepfather, and she gave me huge hug.

Also, dating is difficult when trans. Once they find out, they ghost you, or turn you into a fetish. Took myself off Grindr because no one wanted a relationship, they wanted to F me and leave.

[unofan]

Took myself off Grindr because no one wanted a relationship, they wanted to F me and leave.

Thankfully I got happily married before tinder, grindr, etc. became a thing, but isn't grindr the app for one night stands?

[MissThundercat]

Re: Gender Studies I

Thankfully I got happily married before tinder, grindr, etc. became a thing, but isn't grindr the app for one night stands?

Some people have used it to find romance and a steady relationship. I did not find that. I found a whole bunch of males wanting to treat me as a fetish.

[Kepler]

Re: Gender Studies I

Some people have used it to find romance and a steady relationship. I did not find that. I found a whole bunch of males wanting to treat me as a fetish.

To be fair this probably has nothing to do with being trans. From what I have heard, Tinder and Grinder are about f-cking tonight, not finding anything lasting except maybe a venereal disease.

[dxmnkd316]

Re: Gender Studies I

Yeah, eharmony is for those looking for long term
Match is a middle ground
Tinder and Grindr were for ****ing other people
WisconsinDates.com was for ****ing deer
And Lowered Expectations was for the rest of us on USCHO

[The Rube]

Re: Gender Studies I

I do know of one person who ended up meeting his wife on Tinder.

I do know of a couple people who are in serious relationships because of Bumble (?).

Anecdotal, but it could happen.

[MinnesotaNorthStar]

Tinder....for ****ing other people

And yet, 75% of the profiles I come across say "Not here for a one night stand"