TRP: Free of political butthurt since 1999.

[dxmnkd316]

Holy god

[St. Clown]

Anybody here going to the MN State Fair should check out the crop art exhibit. A buddy of mine from hockey usually finishes in the top 3, last year winning it all with his Yoda portrait. This year he made a Super Mario 3 mural(?), and it took him a little more than 400 hours to complete it.

[MissThundercat]

In November, when I started my current job, I had to pass a 50 lb lift test. 10 reps picking up and putting down a 50 lb box. I passed, but I struggled with 4 reps to go.

Yesterday, for my new job, I had to do the same test. 10 reps felt easy and I could have done much more.

[Swansong]

I hate these managerial tricks. It's never that complicated.

Lead with the compliment to make sure you set the tone correctly. "Let me start by saying you're a great employee and we're lucky to have you on our team. But I need to talk to you about <thing>." It's all about context and phrasing. Is this constructive, positive criticism? Or are you shanking the person. If you make it clear that you appreciate the person and want them to do great work, criticism is usually taken much better.

Unless they suck.

[aparch]

wow, that seems like a bit of an over-reaction.

I tell everyone that companies aren't loyal to employees anymore (if they ever were), so I'll never blame an employee for leaving if it's in their best interest. Which is what I told my employee yesterday when she turned in her 2 weeks notice.

...

Your management style sounds a lot like my boss/mentor that I followed to the new company. Very honest, and giving all the tools and support to each person and pushes them in the right direction. It's up to the employee to take the reins and push themselves forward.

It's one thing my boss actually pointed out to me how every time I would take on a little more, I would run with it and exceed his expectations. It sounds like your employee is very similar to the people I left behind at the old company (one of them being the one who cussed me out): never any ambition to improve themselves and continually on coast-mode.

I have always appreciated management style like yours and my mentor, and it works for me. Some people just don't take to that style.

Funny how similar your issue is to one my boss had: a lazy individual didnt want to comunicate with their boss, and lashes out to everyone but the boss.

May your future ex-employee have the day they deserve.

[FadeToBlack&Gold]

I haven't learned to 'sandwich conversations' (good, bad, good)

At my firm, our HR lead hates this cliche and tells us not to do it when giving peer or manager feedback during review cycles. She calls it, "the sh*t sandwich".

[wolverineTrumpet]

Wished a former co-worker at my ex-employer a "Happy Birthday!!" on LinkedIn today.

In reply, I was called a backstabbing, lying, piece of ****, all because I switched companies. And he closed by asking to never contact him again.

So I got that going for me. How's everyone else's day going?

wow, that seems like a bit of an over-reaction.

I tell everyone that companies aren't loyal to employees anymore (if they ever were), so I'll never blame an employee for leaving if it's in their best interest. Which is what I told my employee yesterday when she turned in her 2 weeks notice.

I asked where she's going and what she's gonna be doing. Found out she's taking an easier job with a pay cut because I'm a terrible person to work for. I haven't learned to 'sandwich conversations' (good, bad, good) specifically in regards to when she asked about the opening we'll have in our department next month which would be a promotion for her. I thought I had approached it well. Told her the strengths and that I think she's smart enough, and should be able to do it, but also the areas I need to see improvement in before I could trust her with that role. It sucks 'cause I wish she had stepped up to the plate to show she could do it, but every time I tried to give her a harder (but reasonable) task she missed the deadline by a week or didn't complete it at all.

My boss and I have had the conversation about her, because last time the promotion position was open she didn't get it. We've talked how we wish she would step up but it hasn't happened. Honestly, I'm not too upset about her going. I am upset about her calling me out as the reason. I'm unfriendly and 'an Eeyore' apparently.

[aparch]

So, that's a totally reasonable reaction, eh?

Right? Oh well.

Seems like a confirmation you made the right decision.

Agreed. The new company has been a breath of fresh air.

[Kepler]

Wished a former co-worker at my ex-employer a "Happy Birthday!!" on LinkedIn today.

In reply, I was called a backstabbing, lying, piece of ****, all because I switched companies. And he closed by asking to never contact him again.

Seems like a confirmation you made the right decision.

[Jimjamesak]

So, that's a totally reasonable reaction, eh?

Only if you hate Bewitched.

[Swansong]

Wished a former co-worker at my ex-employer a "Happy Birthday!!" on LinkedIn today.

In reply, I was called a backstabbing, lying, piece of ****, all because I switched companies. And he closed by asking to never contact him again.

So I got that going for me. How's everyone else's day going?

So, that's a totally reasonable reaction, eh?

[dxmnkd316]

holy hell

[aparch]

Wished a former co-worker at my ex-employer a "Happy Birthday!!" on LinkedIn today.

In reply, I was called a backstabbing, lying, piece of ****, all because I switched companies. And he closed by asking to never contact him again.

So I got that going for me. How's everyone else's day going?

[MissThundercat]

I wrote this on Mother's Day.

It's Mother's Day.

Many of you know I lost my Mom in 2010 and certain days are awful without her.

But in the almost 12 years since her passing, I've been adopted and raised by some of the best women I could have asked for.

And at 40+, it's no longer enough to say "I'll do anything for you" or "I'll buy you anything I can afford." It's now abundantly clear I need to LIVE for my Mama Bears. You don't need another necklace that says "Mom" on it. You don't need me to take on a masked villain in a sword fight for you.

Instead, I'm committing to my personal growth and development.

I'm making better choices.

I'm getting some sleep.

And drinking water and eating vegetables.

No longer swinging between 100 MPH and 0.

Learning to maintain healthy relationships.

And to hold down a job and graduate with my MSW.

And to maintain sobriety.

After all, in the end, I just want to be the girl you say I am and the girl you know I can be. To show you that your efforts on me meant something.

I love you!

[MissThundercat]

Here's the Bloom Where You Are Planted tattoo.

https://www.instagram.com/p/CbtEyAZr...dium=copy_link